For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
In an age where social networking is one of the primary methods of communication and a time where we'd rather Tweet then speak, relationships have been carried out more and more over the internet. We as women can't wait for the faithful day when we can change our Facebook status to "In A Relationship" or post pictures of our boo on Myspace, but what do you do when your mate doesn't return the favor.
Here's the scenario:
You log in to Facebook for the first time in weeks. On your page you wear proudly that you are in a relationship with the love of your life. Your status messages, default pictures and photo galleries all reflect the same. While browsing through your friends list you stumble across your boo's page. You notice that his page says "Single" as his relationship status. Single? Did he forget to change his status though you have been together for several months? Could he really see himself as single? Is it possible he's messing around? What do you do?
What would I do? First and foremost I have to look at the obvious. If I'm putting 200% into showing the world how much I'm into you, the least you can do is change your Relationship Status to reflect the same. I'm fully aware that men and women show they "care" in different ways, and that's cool, but I'll be damned if you think you're gonna play me for some cyber jump off because I have no problem with Ctrl-Alt-Deleting that ass. Granted, boys will be boys and dogs will be dogs and there is no amount of Facebook love in the world that will keep a dog from sniffing another dog's behind. I'm sure that even if he changed his status to "married" that wouldn't stop him from cheating if that is really what he was going to do, but it's the principle of the situation. I've always said "If you don't respect the relationship, no one else will" and frankly, I'm just not the chick who enjoys walking around with egg on my face, regardless of how you treat me OFF the internet.
Yes, it may be petty of me to worry about how he portrays our relationship over the internet if he is treating me perfectly fine at home, but how many times have we heard of men living a double life? If you are living a double life I have every right to request that I be in both of them. If you're gonna be single over the world wide web, just make sure you know you're single when you get home from work and your bags are packed at the doorway!
So what do you say? Are social networking sites the death to healthy relationships or are they just bringing to light what's always been there that we've refused to see? Speak on it...