Is It Ever Okay To Take Another Woman's Man?

Everybody plays the fool side-chick sometimes right? Is it ever okay to take another woman's man?

Let's say you meet a guy, he seems to be perfect. He takes you out on several dates, he always picks you up from your place on time & you guys are really hitting it off. You think that it's quite possible that he could be the one, or at least you'd like for him to be, until one day he tells you that he has a secret to disclose. He says that he's currently married but going through a divorce. He says that he's separated and that he cares deeply about you and wanted to make sure you found out from him rather than anyone else. Of course you're in shock at first, but then you start thinking "He's separated". It's better than them being together, right? Is it okay to be a little selfish and continue to date him although the ink technically hasn't been put to the divorce papers yet? I mean, who's happiness is more important than your own at this point?

 

What about the guy that you practically grew up with? He was your first love and you his. Everytime he's around you get an overwhelming feeling of love. You both know that eventually be together, get married, have the house with the white picket fence and the 2 kids with the dog. But now he has a girlfriend. Do you care? Do you always have dibbs on him whenever you want him? Technically he was yours first!

 

These are two examples that I think one would feel it was okay to take another woman's man. I for one feel that you can't take anything that doesn't want to be taken. I'm also a firm believer in Karma. With that said, although I've never been the "taker"the situation could definitely go either way. It can also be very messy if you're not complete open, honest and careful.

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Comment by Lenel on March 28, 2012 at 10:43pm

Been there that's why Im single now.  My husband was cheating and living with the chick now and their new baby. So she might be thinking she won but oh wee girl you helped my escape. That fool go through cycles of temporary insanity.   Now that they live together she going through one of the cycles now. He has no job, cant get unemployment, warrants and told me he thinking bout getting his own place. So dammit I don't miss any of that.

 

I was a stay at home mother for 7 years. When my baby was attending all day school I got a job, some schooling and was planning my escape. He got a vasectomy after our 4th child cause I said I want to work and kids and cheap. Two days after I told him I wanted a divorce. This fool said would you have a baby with me. I said no so the side chick agreed and paid for the reversal of the vasectomy.

 

So now she getting a taste of what she thought was a wonderful life for me.  They have a 2 month old baby, he's unemployed, no car,warrants and they living off her check for chronic medical issues.

I believe he is depressed cause he has never had any warrants or just didn't want to do better. He texts calls and come by unannounced so we can talk and be friends like before. But, I declined his friendship cause a friend wouldn't go behind your back like that. I also told him since you risked all umpteen years we was together for her. Then she need to be your all in all now. Hmph! So of course I was everything but a human after that.

My little story. Thanks for listening.

Comment by Eleven8 on March 28, 2012 at 11:08pm

That's a doozy!

Comment by carmen monrose on April 29, 2012 at 8:45pm
To be honest I feel that you should do what YOU feel is right. At the end of the day no matter what you pick people will judge you, talk about your relationship, and knit pick through it. But if your happy with your decision then who gives a damn. Have fun enjoy life. The problem comes when you break up a happy home but if he isn't happy and the wife knows it, he knows it, and you do too well then its an open invitation. And to @honeycoated if your happy do it.... if your friendship is more important leave that alone
Comment by DJ - A.K.A - DON_JUAN on January 2, 2013 at 12:16pm

bwahahaahaah @ bsm

Comment by Patricia Leen on January 2, 2013 at 11:33pm
@honeycoated NEVER MEVER EVER DATE YOUR FRIEND'S EX!!! Unless of course she gives you the go-ahead... Besides that, it's dlat out wrong. You owe your friend respect, honesty and love. Therefore never over step certain boundaries for the sake of having a man. And there must have been some kind of chatty between your friend and her ex at the beginning of them dating, it may have faded eventually. But there are plenty other men you can date besides your friend's ex...

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