FOR WOMEN WHO WANT THE BALLERIFIC LIFE!
Should You Give Up On Your Baller?
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You both talked, kicked it, have been in touch, even spent a night together, but you can’t quite pin him down. He’s always promising to call you back, but never does. He doesn’t call often. He likes to text mostly. When he does, it’s steamy. He gets you riled up again thinking of possibilities. You’re not a jump off, because he hasn’t been jumping on you for a while. You’re not a mistress because he doesn’t “keep” you. So what are you?
A girl just trying to fit in anywhere she can just for a slice of him. That slice could mean anything—his money, his connections, his fascinating personality or simply the chance to make love to him again. You don’t call him unless he calls you. You hardly, if ever, see him. But he’s there. He’s there. You keep trying. However, you wonder if you are being “thirsty” or “desperate”. That behavior is for some, but not you. I am here to tell you one thing: NEVER GIVE UP.
You may be one of those girls, and there are many who don’t go out a lot, don’t meet enough or if any ballers, or you just met your first baller. This is all okay and very normal. The key to success is to stay at it. You want to hold on to what you found because you know it’s always easier to get more of something when you have some of it already. Don’t stalk, but stay in the peripheries. Just when he thinks you’ve forgotten about him, you contact him via his preferred method. He’ll more than likely respond. Whether he does or not isn’t the point. It’s not about getting him, but staying in the flow and focusing your attention on the things you want. Staying in touch with him aligns your mind to think of what can happen with him or any other baller. One particular baller’s current girlfriend, stayed in the picture for 7 years. Through his divorce and she only had sex with him once. She even got engaged to someone else during this time. In the 7th year, he reached out to her after 1 year of no response to her occasional outreach. He told her that she was on his mind one way or another. They are with each other now. Many times, these men date women in their circle or who someone puts them on to. In order to be in the circle, you have to stay in it somehow, even if it’s just his.
The one circumstance that I still remember was when I heard about this one chick who gave a baller her number. When he called, he told her he was seeing someone seriously. She told him she didn’t want to play but that he should reach out when available. He didn’t. But she did every so often. Two years later he did reach out and he was single. Not sure what happened, but last I heard they were dating. Remember, your life is going on. Even if you end up with the average Joe, still reach out now and then. You wait for no one, but you always stay "present" like an owl on the branch.
If you get impatient, get a psychic or an intuitive counselor to help you decide if you should continue. Don't make any rash decisions. Extreme circumstances call for extreme measures! LOL. Nearly every celebrity has one. You don't really think they leave multi-million dollar deals up to chance, do you?
So, there you have it. Never give up. Measure your communication with him. Don’t worry about how you look or seem. Just be smart and keep all the contact very simple. No lovie-dovie messages or demands for anything. Just simple, brief and fleeting. The objective at the end is to have at least one or more baller interested in you. A well-known chick who did this is Tameka Foster. Not even Usher’s mama could’ve stopped her. The only time to stop is when he tells you so, and most men never will if you follow the rules.
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Comment by Boss on April 11, 2008 at 11:16am -
I love your blogs...
I have learned so much on this site...keep them coming.
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Comment by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on April 11, 2008 at 11:20am -
I have been having an issue with this one guy, and you just answered it.
I did this with another guy (not intentionally though), and now we are much, MUCH more
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Comment by Holly-Would on April 11, 2008 at 11:38am - This is right on the head....But I send lovey dovey......sue me :)
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Comment by Honeycoated on April 11, 2008 at 11:45am -
Wow. Yeah I wish I read this about a moth ago. This guy wasnt BALLIN but i still liked him. Should you only do this with a BALLER though? This guy was very handsone and had good dick. But I felt like I had to "take a number" and "wait". I got fed up and was like fuck this and I started feeling like I was just his jumpoff. I sould/could have played it differently but I think the reason I was trying so hard with him is because I wasnt seeing anybody else. I think if I had other options available, I wouldnt have tried so hard with this guy until he was "ready".
My only fear was that, while trying to stick around and outlast all the others, he could have ended up STILL picking someone else.
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Comment by Chocolate Allure on April 11, 2008 at 12:05pm - Hello what about a thing called "dignity". Look I am not going to wait around for a man to determine when I am "worthy" of his time. By the time he comes around if you are still available, you've justed given yourself less value. Have you ever heard men talk about "the one that got away". What one baller won't do, another will. Have some confidence, courage and conviction!
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Comment by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on April 11, 2008 at 12:46pm
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I don't look at it like 'waiting or sticking around'...like the post says your life is moving on, just stay in contact who knows what could happen...I've been 'homey-lover-friends' with a guy on and off for 6+ yrs now, I have had serious relationships and a baby since we met, but I always stayed in contact (I never cheated on anyone with him)...and now we have both come to a place in our lives where we just work...I also had this relationship ith someone else and it didn't work out like this - you never know.
Its just staying in contact with someone, its not that serious.
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Comment by Chocolate Allure on April 11, 2008 at 12:53pm
- "He’s always promising to call you back, but never does. He doesn’t call often." "A girl just trying to fit in anywhere she can just for a slice of him". Sounds desperate to me.
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Comment by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on April 11, 2008 at 1:02pm
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I didn't have that issue with either of them...I just kept in contact throughout the years, period...they did the same...mostly it was just a matter of my scrolling thru my phone and saying to myself "let me see what they've been up to."
and yes I've had one or two who were slow to call back or didn't, but I kept in contact and it came in handy for business contacts...you just never know
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Comment by Boss on April 11, 2008 at 1:06pm
- Did someone say desperate?
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Comment by Le Coquette on April 11, 2008 at 1:12pm - I am 50/50 about this. I feel where Chocolate Allure is coming from. But i have known women who have done this and it has worked for them. And the men do not look at them like they sold theirselves short. If a woman just drops a line every so often it's not that big of a deal. Now if she is hitting his phone up ever other week with no response than that is another story. I have done this myself in the past and now i get points that i've "been around" for 5yrs and am a cool person. Everything in life is about persistence. School, that house you want, that man you want. We all hope he will fall in our lap but it may not happen. I look at it as something akin to keeping in contact with a business associate or an previous upwardly mobile co-worker. You may not speak all the time but you do things to stay relevant. Emails, Holiday cards. You just never know.
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