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Far too often women deal with men that have abusive tendencies and tend to overlook the signs because we’re “in love”. Sometimes we get away, other times it’s far too late. I felt this post was long overdue and it’s definitely necessary to share with all of your female friends & family members, whether you think they’re in a potentially abusive relationship or not. You can’t always see what a person’s going through. Ask Kelly Rowland.
The Signs Of A Potentially Abusive Man
Controlling – If a man is controlling, chances are he will use all types of tactics to make sure that he and only he is the Alpha in the house hold. Know the difference between controlling and suggestive. If you hardly notice a compromise, you find him TELLING you what to do, or his suggestions escalate to demands, chances are his demands will escalate to actions. Be very cautious of men with the “what I say goes” mentality that don’t like to talk.
Priors – If a man has been in an abusive relationship in the past, chances are you are dealing with someone who may have anger issues. Although not all relationships are the same and what he does to one woman doesn’t reflect on what he’ll do to you, don’t be blind to the fact that he HAS put his hands on a woman before. Until it happens to you, you don’t know if the previous incident was one off or if it’s habitual. Don’t let yourself be a statistic rather than the exception. Sometimes a person’s past will tell you a lot about their present. Don’t be naive.
Substance Abuse – This one goes overlooked a lot but it’s the most common of them all. Drugs and alcohol can alter one’s behavior. Some people take them to help them cope with other issues they are having some people do them recreationally. If you are with a guy and you notice that he is beginning to abuse drugs, even something like Molly, you may be dealing with someone that will potentially abuse you. If he needs drugs to be happy, there is a problem. If his mood changes, whether positively or negatively, while on drugs or alcohol he needs to seek help. Don’t down play a person’s drug or alcohol abuse. It may not seem like much at first but statistically there are MANY incidents of domestic abuse that happen when a person was high/drunk or when they “should have been” high/drunk.
Anger – Women tend to justify a man’s anger and blame ourselves. Stop that! Anger issues are the problem of the person who has them. You did not cause the anger, don’t take the blame for it. Anger is a good emotion to have and when utilized correctly, can even inspire a person to be more productive. If you’re dealing with a man who tends to get physical when he’s angry, be careful. Punching holes in walls, throwing things and breaking things are tell tale signs of an abusive man.
Increased Jealousy – If a man is always asking where you are, who you are with and accusing you of cheating, this goes hand in hand with being controlling and lack of trust. Trust is a big part of a relationship but if you’re dealing with a man who is completely insecure, when there isn’t a reason to be, chances are there are some battles in his head he may need to deal with. Take this as a warning sign.
As a bonus, ladies please take threats seriously. What may seem like a joke is definitely coming from a very real place. No man will ever joke about putting his hands on you unless he would really do it.
