Being attractive goes far deeper than just appearance.
Attractiveness isn't only about looks. Regardless of how good-looking you are, if you don't know what to do, what not to do, what to say and what not to say, your chance of landing your dream girl is slim to none.
Most often, popular guys are not the ones with celebrity looks, but the ones who have mastered the art of true attractiveness. For those still struggling with what makes men truly attractive to women, I offer some advice.
You are going on a date with your girlfriend, you are driving and you get stuck in traffic. Suddenly, you start venting about how everyone should just stay home and not bring their stupid cars out just to jam the street. You complain about how the road system in the city sucks and how you will not be able to make it to the movie on time. What would your girlfriend think of you?
How about using that time to have a conversation about something you haven't spoken about so far? You are the one who initiated the date, so why not try to make the most out of this not-so-pleasant situation?
Instead of venting at everybody, which does nothing more than show how immature you are, start a conversation about the movie you will be seeing that evening. Or, if you have a good sense of humour, crack a few jokes, which is totally harmless. Your girlfriend will definitely notice how hard you are trying to lighten up the situation and she'll enjoy it, too.
Every person on this planet values humility as one of the greatest human virtues. Women like men who are confident, but at the same time, humble. As a society, we sometimes take humility to mean lack of confidence, but humility and confidence can definitely go together. When such a combination is found in a man, a woman will definitely be attracted.
What's even more important than the look is the voice. A man who has a low tone of voice and relaxed shoulders exudes confidence and appeal to women. They see him as reliable. If you look too strained, even though your portfolio might be stellar, women generally will not find you as attractive.
The Little Things Matter
Kindness is good, but if kindness is the only thing you've got going for you, you are out of luck. Add a tough side to your kindness and you will boost your score on the popularity scale.
If your girlfriend is struggling with the menu, take the lead and say, “Why don't you try this? It's really good. You will like it.” Don't just sit there and keep asking, “So, what do you want?” There is a difference between rushing her and taking the lead. The latter is a very good thing! You are sure to earn a few extra points.
Be an Entertainer
An entertainer doesn't have to be on TV every night. If you have what it takes to make your girlfriend laugh, cry, smile and frown, then you are her entertainer.
Love must be true and genuine, but just for now, treat your relationship like a stage. Think about each scene, where each character is and what they will say. Think about how the play will begin and end. Make her the heroine and you, her Prince Charming.
Every girl says they want to meet Prince Charming, a character straight out of a story. You may not be Prince Charming, but you can be the closest thing there is.
Even without the celebrity looks and the fancy car, you can appeal to women by polishing your manners and inner strength. Lastly, try reading books and keeping up with the news. If you don't have the looks or any of the other traits I've mentioned, at least you'll have the brains. That's got to count for something.