A Gift and a Curse: She's Pregnant by a Baller and She....
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Hey yall,
A couple of years ago I was super tight with this chick (we’ll call her Kim). We kicked it damn near everyday and would go to all the hottest parties. However, after I found out she said some things behind my back that wasn’t true, I had to cut her off. So anyways, this weekend was my friend’s party. It was a huge celebration. Even folks from outta town were invited. Kim was also at the party. I hadn’t seen her since ’07. And I wasn’t too excited to see her. Although, I did play nice and was cordial cause it was my friend’s celebration and I didn’t wanna cause no drama. At the party, she tells my friend that she’s 4 months pregnant!!! I’m thinking to myself…what!?!?! My friend asks who the baby daddy is and she mentions this well known NBA player. I can’t say who he is but I’ll drop some hints. 1) He played in the finals this year. 2) He’s a young player. And 3) He’s low-key. Now, I know I didn’t give away much but you blues clues bitches aint getting it outta me!!! She says how excited she is to have a baby. And that it was actually his idea. He mentioned that he wanted to have a baby. So she figured it was a perfect opportunity to have a child.
Before I continue with the story, let me give yall some insight about her and her relationship with her baller. She is a groupie. I would consider her a “roster” groupie. She’s had her fair share of ballers…mainly athletes. She’s in her late 20s with no kids, attractive with lots of personality, and very, very, very charismatic. She loves the baller lifestyle and really wanna be a baller’s wife. This guy she’s pregnant by is not her man. They’ve been messing around for a few years. She knows he messes with other women. She’s even caught him on other dates a couple of times. However, she continued to stay hoping one day she would get the ring. Marrying a baller and having his child was her main and only goal.
Now, I’ll continue with the story…
She proceeds to tell my friend that she’s been having difficult times lately cause he’s not there to support her at times. Currently, they are “off” in their "on again/off again" relationship. And that she hadn’t spoken to him in a week. She states that when she first got pregnant, he was cool. But now he’s tripping. My friend tries to encourage her by saying that she’s blessed to be with child and that the baby is a gift. Kim then breaks down in tears and says I know the baby is a blessing but its been a curse as well. My friend asks her to elaborate and Kim goes on to say that not only did he get her pregnant but he also gave her Herpes. My mouth dropped!!!!!!! I truly didn’t know what to think. A million things ran through my mind. I knew how hard she wanted to be in a relationship with a baller and have his baby. So she got what she wanted, right? But on the flipside she also got Herpes. But what’s even crazier, she hasn’t told him that he gave her Herpes and she still wants to be with him.
So folks, did she deserve what she got cause her intentions were all wrong? Or is she stupid for having unprotected sex? What are your thoughts about the parties involved? Is he at fault in any of this? Is this kind of stuff expected when being involved with a baller?
Thoughts?
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Comment by JustMe on August 31, 2009 at 11:32pm - hell yes he is at fault... he should covered up his lil nasty ass dick & it wouldn't be covered with sores... but as a woman, she knows better... when you start something out wrong, it ends up much worse... She wasn't looking for a man that would honor, love and respect her, she was looking for a motherfucker with deep pockets... cause this nigga got some change you take his bullshit & have his baby? ummm, why? cause he wanted one? people in hell want ice water... Like the post said a while back, babies are the new marriage. people need to learn that money does not buy happiness, can not keep you warm at night & damn sure cant take them nasty ass bumps off her twat...
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Comment by Upgrade_Me on August 31, 2009 at 11:36pm -
Well, I'm not gonna sit here and say she deserved anything bc I know I've made my mistakes when it comes to sex, relationships, & emotions. This is a situation where she made her choice(s) and now she just has to deal with it. It sucks. Bad.
A lot of times, I don't think people deserve the things that happen to them--good or bad. People comfort themselves by saying "everything happens for a reason" but I say that at times things arbitrarily and randomly happen to us and we just have to make sense of it and/or roll with the punches.
You friend made her bed, now she has to lie in it. That's not a judgment on my part, just the truth.
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Comment by Cougar $pice on August 31, 2009 at 11:47pm - LOL @ JM She wasn't looking for a man that would honor, love and respect her, she was looking for a motherfucker with deep pockets... <<<<when your intentions are not honorable you have to deal with the consequences. In her late 20's she knows better, but she also let him dictate how she wants to be treated. Her desire for the lifestyle is more important than her health and now a child is coming into the world under these circumstances. I wish her well.
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Comment by tHeOfFiCialLuRKeR on September 1, 2009 at 12:02am -
What's the problem? She got what she asked for, right? And a little more than what she baragained for! This is a classic open & shut case of be careful of what you ask for, cause you might just get it. God gave her the baby and the devil have the herpes, they both worked together to teach her a lesson!
These n!ggas dont give a $hit about no herpes, cause mofo's is running, skipping & bike riding & $hit in these valtrex commercials , looking happier than before they got herpes! Now she gotta control outbreaks & what not. smh
Played in the finals aye?! Young?! hmmmm..... i got a guess! Does he have any kids already?
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Comment by Boss/MadamBA on September 1, 2009 at 12:03am -
Hell no she didn't deserve that...what about the people who has been married for 10 years and their husbands bring something home.
No one deserves that...
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Comment by tHeOfFiCialLuRKeR on September 1, 2009 at 12:34am
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oh, wait i didnt anwser the question the word deserve works in a couple of ways.
Deserve =to merit, be qualified for, or have a claim to (reward, assistance, punishment, etc.) because of actions, qualities, or situation
Shouldnt plan on having a child with a man that you arent even in a serious realtionship with, i would say married too. She knew he was seeing other people, which means he was messing with othr girls. Which she knew & rsked her body. He knows he has something & if he doesnt he will know come the last week in September when the NBA does their health physicals & he'll know.
And boss those people who married dont deserve that. but that girl wasnt even in a realtionship. which is even more reason she shouldnt have een going raw dog!
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Comment by OfficialGroupie on September 1, 2009 at 1:22am - @ theofficiallurker. no more clues! lol. technically i was referring to the conference finals. i refer to the "finals" as the championship game. sorry. i wasnt trying to throw yall off. i accidently left off conference. but im not telling if its the east or west!!
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Comment by Sheli on September 1, 2009 at 9:08am -
Yes she's stupid for having unprotected sex (we've all been there), but No she didn't deserve to get herpes.
Her behavior (unprotected sex) did put her in a position where she would suseptible to an STD, but a girlfriend or wife could be in the same position.
What if another woman innocently got with this Baller (not knowing he had herpes) and down the line they're in a relationship, he neglects to mention he had herpes and she get it, Did she also deserve it? To me there's no difference with the two...
What she deserved was for someone to show or teach her that she was more worthy of just being some ballers' optional fuck. Sorry if anyone finds this offensive, but I think most of these true groupies, have "self" issues so they look for these ballers and their money to make them feel like they are worth something.
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Comment by Siren on September 1, 2009 at 9:13am - He is at fault and so is she... We have all put our love box on the crap table. Sometimes you gamble and you lose. When you are not responsible and lay down with out having certain conversations and going through the mature way of handling things (i.e. getting TESTED TOGETHER BEFORE having UNPROTECTED SEX) this can be a result of those choices. It is unfortunate for her. My question is if she is a "roster groupie" and has been known for sleeping around how is she so sure she got it from him?
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Comment by Madison on September 1, 2009 at 9:14am - a nurse (friend who sees a few herpes cases a week-new ones) was telling me after the initial outbreak if you are on whatever meds to control the herpes you don't have painful outbreaks again..now i'd rather lose a toe i think then get the herpes no std 4 me for the record and i'm celibate ..but nobody deserves herpes and i'm sure the groupie will get what she wants from the nba guy
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She needs to chill...
good info but im not a groupie, hoe, or looking for a baller...i have found love with a 'regular' guy lol
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