What is a MOB*STAR B****?? Let’s Clarify:

Good afternoon lovelies! It’s my 1^st blog here with the FAB Baller Alert team, so I wanted to have this 1st blog explain what a  MOB*STAR B**** is, so I'm going to take this time to clarify, give some examples, and you can decide if you're with us, or if you just can't hang! Rule#1, probably most important- you RESPECT yourself, above all else. By respecting yourself, I don’t mean you think highly of yourself in a conceited way, I mean you really respect yourself. You don’t lower your standards for anyone; you can expect others to live up to the standards you set for yourself, and them. You take pride in everything you do- from the way you dress, the way you walk, talk, interact with others- your every move is respectable. Other women can look at you standing in line at the grocery store and think multiple things about you- all of which end with you having your s*** together, because that’s how you present yourself.

Rule #2, Respect your home, your children (if you have them), and respect the place where you lay your head down at night. This is a very close 2nd to rule #1. I see this way too much ladies. Why is it that you meet a guy, go out to dinner once, at some half assed place, and next thing you know not only are you inviting him back to your house- your kids are home?!?! What in the F*** are you doing chick?!?!? REALLY?? Some dude that bought you a 10-15 dollar dinner is coming home with you, that’s all the key to the V-gate is worth??? With your babies there, hold- the-f***-on.... this is a serious epidemic that needs to stop. Not only are you being a dumb b**** to be doing this- do you really want to be with any guy that thinks this is ok?? Coming home with some random chick when her kids are there- ? WOW- AND ladies, let me clarify something... We are grown ass women- I'm the 1st to admit that if I want to sleep with a man within the 1st 30 mins of meeting him, I'm going to do it- BUT NOT AT MY HOUSE WITH MY KIDS AT HOME................. Please go back to rule #1- Be a b**** that proves she’s one worthy of being respected. If you have a babysitter, and you hit it off with the dude - go to his place (as long as the dude doesn’t have kids at his place!!). Be smart ladies, last thing you want is your babies growing up thinking you were a slut, or worse, your daughters thinking that being used as a mattress is ok....- and if you're a single mom to a boy, that dude needs to learn to respect women, and you're the Only woman in his life- make sure you date Up- not down- be a woman that’s worth respecting...

Rule#3- Be a woman of integrity, honesty, and loyalty. It’s not always best to have a thousand "friends" - especially female "friends". In order to achieve this and be able to live by this rule, you have to decide to be 100% honest with yourself. We all have those parts of us that are ugly, s*** I have them, and I’ll admit that freely. I don't like them, I try to control them- but they are still there. I don’t think- personal opinion here- I don’t think they'll ever totally go away, but I think we can keep them at bay, and for me, limiting who I have as "friends" has really helped. I started to notice I had Real friends, and then there were what I started to call the "part timers". The "part timers" were there when I threw a party, when I went out dancing, shopping- anything fun. They were the "yes men" when I had a relationship problem, and I vented to them. The part timers told me everything I wanted to hear...... and that s*** was great for a few years, until I realized my Real Friends- well- I was calling them less and less...... I was declining their invitation less and less, because I was busy with the part timers......

And then it happened, my ex started to abuse me. Without all the long details, I found myself alone, after almost 3 years of abuse. Until one day I got the balls to call the cops- and a Real Friend came to my rescue. She stayed with me for 3 days straight- left her kids and husband to be here with me and my 2 kids. No part timers in sight- they scattered like roaches. It took a while, but I finally remembered that I'm a Bad B****. My ex was attracted to that, and something in him snapped one day, and he wanted to tear down my Bad B**** - he did- for a little while. A trip to prison, losing his family and multiple years on parole, he's a different man, so to speak now :D, and I did remind him that it was I - this BAD B**** that did that to him, after all he did to me- but all of that aside..... The Real Friends rallied, came to my rescue. All this happened about 4 years ago..... Haven’t talked to any of the part timers sense, and my life is straight fluid - I have about 5 true to life friends that I speak with multiple times a week, they know all of me, they still accept me even though they know all of those things- and I can’t imagine it any other way. 

In closing ladies- Be a woman who demands respect, be a woman of integrity, be a woman of honesty, be a woman who is someone you would look up to, EVEN if you wouldn’t see yourself being her friend, you RESPECT her. BE that woman. Command Respect ladies, because Respect is something that people don’t just dish out freely.- and then you will be a real MOB*STAR B****!!!  Toddles for now loves!!

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