By definition a Man Hater is a woman who thinks all men are scum without reason, and hates a man just because he is of the male gender.


I have many friends that I think fall into this category. They believe that ALL men are trifling dirty dogs. What many of them don't realize is how bitter they come off. Some of them have been hurt deeply by men and have held on to that anger, and others latch on to the anger of what men have done to their mothers, sisters, & friends. What many of my man hating sisters haven't done is evaluated the part that they may have played by the choices that they made.

Yes I have been deeply hurt my a man in the past – in fact more than once. Yes some of the men I have dated have let me down, hurt and disappointed me Yes I have days where I feel I have lost faith in the notion of love.
But that has not made me hate men, not even the ones who have broken my heart. It has not made me believe all men are bad or that all men are out to hurt me. It has made me realize that I have chosen men who are not good for me and that is neither ones fault – it is simple life. So in a way going through the bad dates, the heartaches, the disappointments and the tears was a good thing. Each man who has come into my life has taught me something about myself and given me some wonderful memories(some bad ones too) and some invaluable lessons. I wouldn’t change that for anything.I now make smarter choices. I set realistic expectations. I allow myself and him room to fail and try again. I also get out when I see the signs its not working.

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to
see an imperfect person perfectly.”– Sam Keen

Are you a man hater? Do you know any?

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Comment by Baller Alert on March 6, 2009 at 1:38pm
No i'm not a man hater...I just hate dumb s*** that they do sometimes.
Comment by OfficialGroupie on March 6, 2009 at 2:28pm
Nope. I love men!
Comment by Mrs... on March 6, 2009 at 4:32pm
Good lesson hard too learn:)
Comment by Stephbaby on March 6, 2009 at 4:34pm
Nope not a man hater. Great blog, loving the quote.
Comment by Deja on March 6, 2009 at 8:05pm
I'm not a man hater @ all! I too hate the silly things they do...but you gotta love em!
Comment by OLD $PICE PINE NEEDLE on March 6, 2009 at 10:12pm
Can't hate them, they have only 2 things that I need. Dic and Ca$h LMAO
Comment by SexyVixen on March 7, 2009 at 8:12pm
It is what it is! Don't hate them but know how to treat them with a long handle spoon.
Comment by SACK CHASER on March 31, 2013 at 12:17pm
This was an EXCELLENT blog Siren! This is something that i am concious of because im raising A young man. It wouldnt be fair to him if i harbored hate and spit venom towards men...
Comment by Babydoll on March 31, 2013 at 12:36pm

I thought I was a man hater, then asexual...now I just realize I am not ready to date yet after being in such a abusive relationship. It just takes time to heal. Now I see my experience wasn't in vain and I found my worth, so it all worked out in the end.

Comment by PrettyYoungThang on March 31, 2013 at 11:20pm

I totally agree with BabyDoll.

Thats what I was gonna say lol

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