We all say it'll never be us. We'll never be the other chick, the main chick, or anything but the only chick but when it comes down to it, you've probably allowed yourself to be just that.

 

Would you give up on an otherwise good man because you're not the only woman in his life? Let's assume you are with your baller and he has a girlfriend. He still spends a lot of time with you, showers you with gifts and treats you very well. He hasn't hid from you the fact that he has another relationship, he just refuses to leave her for whatever reason. Is that enough grounds for you to leave him? Let's be honest, you really don't care much about his treatment of a woman you don't really know when he pretty much treats you well. At first most women would probably say they would never find themselves in this predicament but for the right Baller, sure you will.

 

One of the things about being a happy side-chick is understand that you are a side-chick. Admitting and understanding this is the first key to embracing this new lifestyle. And yes, it definitely is a lifestyle. Things change when you're the side-chick. Those who are more used to being social butterflies and having public displays of affection may need to get used to not being able to be out and about with their mate as much. You must respect that. The minute you get upset because he "doesn't take you out" is the minute you can lose an otherwise good relationship over something extremely petty. Sometimes the side-chick has to learn to entertain herself when her Baller is away.

 

The next thing a side-chick must understand is that she may not always come first. These days Baller's keep around their wives and "main" chicks for an image. It's not as easy for him to give her up when his life is in the spotlight. You must understand that though there will be times you want to share that spotlight, you simply can't. That is the main woman in his life's job. Anytime she needs him, it's highly possible that he will come running. this is something you'll have to deal with. If you can understand this, you can get through anything. 

 

Lastly, don't be surprised that if you become the main chick, that there will be a side chick eventually. The down side to being the other woman is that it can become a vicious cycle. A man who is used to the company of multiple woman rarely finds satisfaction with just one. All the sex in the world won't make him stick to a single woman. This is one of the things that come with the territory that you may just have to accept. Can you find yourself happily being a side chick?

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Comment by Eye Sum on August 24, 2011 at 12:03pm
Only if it works both ways.....
Comment by Creative Bee on August 24, 2011 at 12:07pm
^^^ I agree, I would probably have side men and eventually would get with someone who wants to be monogamous.
Comment by mese on August 24, 2011 at 2:58pm
Bsk lmfao! im done with you! lol! but yea uh I don't like to share so the side chick life isn't for me. But im pretty sure Ive been the sidechick and didn't even know it. Smh.
Comment by nycchickadee on August 24, 2011 at 3:05pm
I will admit I was a side chic to a very wealthy guy
Comment by Honeycoated on August 24, 2011 at 3:32pm
I would do it if the guy was wealthy, BUT I would make sure I wrap my brain around the fact that it is a "business deal", and still do me because when he goes home, he does him. He would not be the only guy I'm seeing, that's when things get messed up. I was a side chick and although he did help financially, i caught feelings and he was also doing alot of lying. But if everybody knows whats what in the beginning, things go alot smoother
Comment by Ajariah Dillon on August 24, 2011 at 6:40pm
I am okay with it because I keep myself on the very low.  But I need a better baller as a business deal.
Comment by LaDiva on August 25, 2011 at 11:40am
Why be a side piece when u can be the main course?  Know your worth ladies.  Besides if you are a side piece, be prepared to be a slice after that cuz it aint just going to be you. 
Comment by LaDiva on August 25, 2011 at 12:06pm
@ BlackSnakeMoan.."married men make better boyfriends" --- U should really think about what you wrote.  You don't realize that your no-care actions affect others.  It doesn't feel good when the shoe is on the other foot.  I know you owe nothing to anyone but that is the problem with women nowadays, there is no spirithood for another woman.  Men that are taken are exactly that.  And you thinking by living the good life is going to change your worth, sorry boo but you're in for a rude awakening.  And you sharing your precious beauty to a man that doesn't give a shiz about his main piece and let alone you.  You just sold yourself short.  All that glitters is not gold. 

Comment by Denise on August 25, 2011 at 1:29pm
"married men make better boyfriends!"......smh.....Lord Take Me Now!!
Comment by Size 2 Prez Wheelies ya dig on August 26, 2011 at 2:02pm

@ BLack Snake! Haha! I know that's right. Sometimes you surprise me boo-boo. I like surprises.

So who gonna check her? If a man wants to cheat on his wife that's his business. What's so different about the wife than the girlfriend he happens to have kids with? What makes that piece of paper any different than let's say.. an untraditional ceromony that didn't involve a priest. Must be that Jesus Juice talkin in y'all.

I can't f**** with religion folks. Every answer is "because God says so."

Black Snake got it right. Married men are the best! The won't stalk you or blow up the celly. Real appreciative and easy to get along with. I got one now. Yea, I first I gave him the side-eye but hell, I'm still trying to figure out what the big deal is.

 

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