For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
He’s dead. At least figuratively. Think this way to help you cope when he doesn’t call. These men meet about 3-4 different eligible females per event or day. It’s most likely he took your number and can’t find it or remember which one you are. He looks at his cell phone and scrolls down and can’t find you (or there was obviously something underwhelming about you, because everyone ain’t for everybody). Oh well. Is it his fault? Your fault? It doesn’t matter here’s a way to make sure it doesn’t happen again.
When you meet him, immediately ask him about something you can do for him or ask him about something he can do for you! Make sure you need to follow up with him about it or he needs to get back to you to keep the lines of communication open for real. It can be about anything at all. If he doesn’t call, you have a REASON to call him. It’ll sound like this: “Hey, remember what I had told you about XYZ. I need some more info. Call me back.” Or “Hey, you said you was gonna call me about XYZ. Let me know when’s a good time to talk about it…” This works most of the time. Because really they don't know what the f*** they promised you. An associate of mine used this and turned it into something more. He asked her out on "business."
You could also arrange to “bump” into him. Again, in the initial conversation, ask him where he hangs out to eat or his plans in the next few days. BE THERE! After a few times, you’ll casually “bump” into him.
If this fails, don’t call him! Especially if you have long term plans for this man. You need to stretch your worth out over some months and time. Don’t let yourself run out after a few weeks. Do not spend your time thinking about why he hasn’t called. You need to find a baller who will!
Men rarely regain their interest, after they’ve lost it. Do not try to convince a man you are worthy! It’ll make you look less worthy. You gotta keep it moving and find another baller. This is a full time job. I say that over and over for a reason.
Do Not Let him See Where You Live! It is too much of a reality for most ballers and it’s very unlikely you’ll be living like him or better. You don’t want him seeing you in your studio or basement apartment! Or the empty fridge with months old milk and the big block of cheese. It’ll just make you look like a burden.
Forget the stories about the sex and the turning him out. Don't fall into that trap! You will be used and passed on. There will be another chick who can do it better. Save the bedroom show for a baller who is looking for something more meaningful. By all means, do your thing, but keep your priorities in order. If sex is all you want, don't try to play another position.
It could also be that you’ve got a reputation. People know about you! He may be wanting to see if it’s all true. If you have been around, that is why it’s important to fall back. Make him think something is wrong with his ass that is why you haven’t called yet. He'll call you just to see. If he’s not calling you, let it go for a while. But never give up.
With that said…
Get ‘em girl!