For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
First let me say that I am a grown woman with kids. I usually do not get into websites of this nature but I had to get some things off my chest as a woman who had it all and lost it all to another woman. A woman whom I consider a groupie. I would like to say that I am an advocate of marriage and I wholly believe in the institution of it, even today as I sit in my lavish home, looking at my lavish cars and wondering why my husband decided love wasn’t enough and threw it all away.
I live in Atlanta and my husband and I have been married for over ten years. We have two homes and plenty of cash to go around. He is well known in Atlanta as a man in the industry. He has several businesses among them a web-designing business, a modeling agency, an on-line magazine, and television show. He has plenty of connections you see and in this world, men with connections have power! I always tried to support my husband in all he did. I helped build his business from the ground up and together we were merely securing a future for our kids. I am not drop dead gorgeous and I wouldn’t say he was the best looking guy either, but you know the saying, “There is someone out there for everybody”, well he was my somebody and I was his or so I thought. We were happy and loved each other.
I can remember it like it was yesterday…the day it all changed. The day I had found out that he had been in L.A. with his “mistress”. Like any other curious woman I began to snoop and look around for clues. How exactly did I miss this? What I found I was not prepared for. This chick was an illegal immigrant to the states (I later found out) but what she had over me was “her look”. I have heard my husband refer to her as “exotic”. Exotic looking. When did he decide that my meager looks were no longer good for him? His had always been enough for me. Again, we are not the best looking couple, but we loved each other. I found out a lot of things about this woman. It’s what we do as women when we have been defeated. We become interested in what he sees and why. More curious than that, I wanted to see what she saw in my husband. She was utterly beautiful and very exotic. It took another woman very beautiful to explain it for me. She said, “Linda, you have to realize that she is a woman seeking something and at this moment to get what she wants, she will step on anyone’s toes to get it. She sees him as an opportunity. An opportunity to get to the next level.” I sat and thought about it and she was right. With him, she gained access to red carpet events, parties, private screenings and other things she would have never gotten into just being a beautiful girl. Sometimes beauty isn’t enough but opportunity is. With him, she gained opportunity to get close to men higher up than my husband in the industry. She now had access to singers, movie stars, pro athletes and executives.
My husband sat his business aside to throw everything into this woman. He paid for photo shoots for her, set up her website, produced videos for her and set her on the map as far as entertainment is concerned.
The difference between men and women is basically we see what they can’t possibly fathom because they are idiots. Not long after my husband did all this, his little mistress turned model decided to collect numbers, but only as business contacts and soon she tuned him out all together. She hired a manager and the manager informed my husband that he should leave her alone. In retaliation, my husband took down her beautiful website and continued to beg her to at least speak to him. I don’t know what transpired after that because I began my healing process and decided that I needed counseling because I didn’t understand why all of a sudden, I was no longer enough for him. I had to move on for the sake of our children. He had fallen out of their life as well and I had to maintain my sanity somehow.
Today, I am doing well, but I don’t understand how it all fell apart? We were happy and loving each other. He has since discovered her in bed with another well known man in the industry (whom I will not name) and has even run into her at parties on the arms of “celebrities”. Yet, he continues to beg her for attention. He continues to spend all his money on her and not provide for our children or contribute to our household. I know all this because he was my companion, lover and friend for over 10 years and I know him like the back of my hand, to guess the passwords on his accounts is not hard. Don’t judge me. I’m a woman, who never saw it coming, but it did and my man is gone. I love him but I have to keep moving. I have to be a mother before I am anything else. This is one of the reasons I don’t frequent your site…a groupie ruined my life but I had to tell my story.
Down but not Out!