BALLERIFIC RELATIONSHIPS - THREE TYPES OF WOMEN THAT MEN SHOULD AVOID

BLOG WRITTEN BY MARVIN

When it comes to relationships, women will spend a lifetime avoiding men until she finds Mr. Right. On the other hand, men will find Mrs. Right after spending a lifetime dating and sleeping with as many women as they can. In the process of finding the right one, people get involved in relationships that they had no business being part of in the first place. In a man’s case, they often get in those relationships because they are thinking with their eyes and penises. There are three types of women that men should avoid despite the apparent attraction.

The Never Single Girl
Here's a girl who seems normal. She's pretty, smart, has a great sense of humor and has all the intangibles that guys like. All her life she's had a boyfriend. She barely knows what it's like to be single. She just recently broke up with her boyfriend and now has her eyes set on you. It seems like an opportunity you don't want to turn down. Turn it down my friend. This girl is needy. She needs the comfort of having a man. She's an emotional train wreck waiting to happen and a "cling-on". You have to call her all day & spend every single bit of free time with her. The wallpaper on her phone, the wallpaper on her laptop, her Twitter avatar & Facebook profile picture is of you two. It's cute but that's only after two weeks. It's more than likely that she is insecure which can lead to jealousy. If a girl's number pops up on your phone, you receive an "I miss you" tweet, smile at another woman or lord forbid hug someone too long, all hell will break loose. She can easily go from yielding a knife and wanting to kill you to crying in your arms. Then there's the competition in her head. Because she gets into relationships so frequently, she will compare you to her last. Instead of you developing in this relationship at your pace, she may be expecting you to develop at his pace and you might not even know it. This girl may have the characteristics you like but don't rush into it. Actually, don't let her rush into it.

The Drunken Hot Girl
You can't keep your eyes off of her. Her hair is long, her dress is short, her lips are glossy and she has the attention of every guy in the room. At the club, she dances on top of couches with a glass of champagne in her hand sometimes pulling her dress down. She has modeling pics but never really models. Her list of boyfriends look like the nominees for the Espy's and MTV Music Awards. Somehow, you have her attention and she likes you. Run! If you're famous or a "baller", understand that she is into you for your fame and money. Nothing else. She wants to enjoy the perks of dating someone as famous as you are. Trips to award shows, great seats at the ball game, pictures of you two on blog sites, etc. She'll never help you invest your money but will definitely show you how to blow $20,000 at Louis Vuitton. If you happen to be the average guy who gets with her, you are in for the ride of your life. Most likely, this girl doesn't work and so she is dependent on you. She's going to have a taste for the finer things. Birkin bags, Louboutin shoes & Mandalay dresses. You better believe that if she wants Italian, it's going to be Scarpetta and not Olive Garden. Then there's the joint bank account, which eventually, will turn one bum into two bums. Her lifestyle is rich in glitz & glamour. Is yours?

Ms. Super Independent
She is the perfect woman. She has it all together. She's beautiful. She can cook and clean. She has her own house and car. She is smart. Graduated with her bachelor's in 2 1/2 years and was able to garner 2 Master's degrees. She's now working on her PhD. She currently holds an executive position at her job. This is the woman you should be with, if you're as or more successful than she is. If you're not, don't date her until you are. Why? Successful women are strong characters. They've worked all their life to be independent so that they don't need you. Everything she does and everything she works for has to be top notch, including her man. If she happens to follow her emotional inclination and dates you because she likes your personality, problems may arise later. She's going to feel the need to carry the relationship, making you feel less like a man. She's going to do things for herself that you won't be able to, once again, striking a blow to your ego. More than likely, powerful men who share similar drive, ambition, and success surround a woman of her stature. You might not measure up. Eventually, you might get looked down upon. If her friends are as successful, they may convince her to ditch you for a "better" man. For the most part, this is the woman you want but you should definitely get your life together before pursuing her.

Everyone has someone that fits his or her wants and needs. It's about self evaluating and determining who you are, what you have and then figuring out what you want and need. Relationships today are beyond just romance. Couples today have to match up physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially. If you know who you are and know what you're looking for, you will be able to choose from a select pool of people and increase your chances of finding the right person for you.

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