From our guest male blogger

The consensus among women is that all men are dogs. Unfortunately, the public infidelities of TIGER WOODS and JESSE JAMES have fueled this common idea. Despite popular belief, there are men out there who want and are able to maintain successful relationships. It is a timely task finding these men but they are out there. However, you have to be aware of the three men that seem like they are a good idea to date but really aren’t. At least not now.

The Dreamer
Women dream of being with a successful man. When a man has yet to achieve success, the greatest attribute he can have is ambition. Women find ambition sexy. A good woman has long-term vision. When she meets a man she likes, she often envisions what it would be like to be with him 5, 10 & 20 years from now. She'll carefully assess his potential to determine whether or not she wants to be with him. Unfortunately, some men pose as being someone ambitious when in fact they are actually a dreamer. The difference between an ambitious man and a dreamer is that someone with ambition works toward achievement. Being with a dreamer will require a lot of sacrifice. Sacrifices that go without rewards. You can find yourself loaning your finances, time and credit score to a dreamer. He has a lot of good ideas and high aspirations but no work ethic. Due to his complacency, achievements are few, far and between. As you have achieved a Master's degree or moved up in your job, he's still at the position you found him 5 years ago. End up with a dreamer, and you'll find yourself thinking about the man of your dreams, who happens to be Mr. Ambition.

Mr. Popularity
There's no party that this man can't start. His jokes are funny. His conversations are interesting. He is loved everywhere he goes. The hottest restaurant? They know him. The most exclusive club? He gets in with no problem. He is never a bore. He's the type of guy that will keep the relationship exciting. Problem is, he's not ready for a relationship. His life is too interesting and too fast paced. He attracts a lot of attention. Unfortunately for you, a lot of that attention comes from the opposite sex. His friendly and flirtatious ways with the opposite sex raises your insecurities. You soon find yourself sharing him. He necessarily isn't cheating on you, but all his attention isn't focused on you. Feelings of loneliness then follow. Heartbreak. Not saying that Mr. Popularity is a bad guy and won't be a good in a relationship, but his time isn't now.

Mr. Jones
For the first time in your life, you're meeting a real man. He's handsome, smart, successful, affectionate and more. He does all the right things. He sends flowers to your job. He got great seats for you two at your favorite singer's concert. He even has the perfect vacation for two planned out. You're starting to fall in love but there is one thing in the way; his marriage. It sounds like common sense to avoid a relationship with a man whose married, but sometimes the law of attraction has other plans. In addition, a married man has all the characteristics of a great catch. He's mature, attentive to your needs and has proven he is ready to take relationships to the next level. As tempting as the prospect of being in a relationship with him is, don't do it. You'll find yourself playing second fiddle. You'll also find yourself waiting as he's promised to leave his wife. It's been 5 years and he hasn't done it yet. If you are lucky enough to have him leave his wife, doubts will arise. You'll develop trust issues. You'll start to second-guess your own personal moral ethics. You'll also be labeled as the woman who destroyed another woman's family. It's ok to want a husband, just make sure he's your own.

Finding your perfect mate is not an easy task. It takes careful assessment of yourself and the prospective person that you are interested in. Timing is also essential. You both have to want it at the same time. Also, no two situations are alike and so the same advice doesn’t always apply. Know yourself. Know your situation.

If you have any questions on romance, relationships, dating, love or sex, email your questions to:

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Comment by Mello826BA aka BAGroupie on May 3, 2010 at 12:03pm
a good read....I know a lot of my girls are involved with each of type of these men & neither of them are happy...Maybe I should print this out for them
Comment by OUT OF CONTROL on May 3, 2010 at 5:29pm
Great read! I'm bout to tweet him up! LOL
Comment by Busy Signal aka $picey on May 3, 2010 at 5:43pm
lol @ OOC
Unfortunately there are too many 'M. r Jones' in the world.


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