You’ve been dating this really sexy woman for the past few weeks. You’ve been to dinner, movies, live shows, the nightclubs, sporting events etc. Every time you two are together, it is pure chemistry. You even notice that she has been a lot more physical and a lot more comfortable. She lets you touch her freely, sexual conversations are more frequent and the kissing has been more passionate. Now you’ve reached the “holy grail” of dating, she’s come back to your place for a night of lovemaking. You make your move, then another move and another move when all of a sudden you slip up and make a mistake that throws all that passion out the window. Sometimes, well in some cases, often, guys ruin their chances to get laid. Worst part is, he’ll get a lame excuse of why she just went from speeding on I-95 to driving in a school zone. Here are some things that could cost you a night of sex.

Over Aggressive
Slow down buddy. Forcing your will on her will turn her off instantly. She may want a man to take control but not take over. Her needs and desires are important here. A healthy sex life is based on communication, trust and desire. Forcing the issue negates those things. Be gentle and firm. If you want to be aggressive, you have to be sure she wants you to be aggressive. Being overly aggressive can make her terribly uncomfortable and scared of you. Who would want to have sex with someone they’re afraid of?

What’s That Smell?
It should be obvious that having poor hygiene will definitely leave you as the 40-year old virgin. Burping, farting, bad breath & smelly genitals are definitely unattractive. She’s not getting any where near you if you exhibit any of these characteristics. You also have to keep the nails of your hands and feet maintained. If you have long and dirty nails, she’s not going to want you to touch her. You always have to be prepared to have sex when in her company by keeping yourself “so fresh” and “so clean”.

No Rubber
It is difficult for me to understand why in this day and age a person would not carry and use condoms. Diseases are rampant and “baby mothers” are ruthless. It’s true that there is nothing sexy about condoms but it is pivotal in having a healthy sex life. First of all, you want to use one. Second of all, you must know how to use one. Learn to open up the packages. Learn how to properly put it on. It is also important to know your size. A large condom is not going to hide the fact that you have a small penis. Last thing you need is to give her the giggles when you slip on a baggy condom. You should always want to wear a condom, especially if she insists. If you decline her request for you to wear a condom or argue the fact, you will find your self having sex with someone who doesn’t care if you wear a condom, yourself.

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