What defines cheating to you?
To me cheating is doing something that you can't/won't tell your significant other about or won't do it around them. It's feeling guilty about doing something that in your eyes doesn't matter. It's when you go out looking for something that you already have at home. It's giving your all to another person when someone else has already given you all of them.
Cheating is the ULTIMATE betrayal.
Can a cheater ever be forgiven? Even if that person has showed/expressed to you how sorry they are and how much they wished it never happened in the first place. They could have told you the whole story of what/how it happened and how sorry they are. Are you willing to forgive them? Are you also willing to forget the situation?
I believe in second chances. I believe that every mistake deserves to be forgiven but not forgotten. I believe that every person that has made a horrible mistake is not a horrible person. I don't believe that the statement 'once a cheater always a cheater' is accurate. I say that because I was once a cheater.
Yes, I have cheated on an ex before. I won't say it was for good reason because there is never a valid reason to cheat on someone. I will say that it was wrong and I regretted doing what I did even WHILE it was being done. After revealing what I had done to him and the relationship he forgave me but he never forgot and that was the breaking point of our relationship.
He did forgive me and he showed me that he did, at first, but ANYTIME we got into a heated argument he would say "If you're not happy you can go back to ol' boy". I HATED hearing that. We could have been arguing about who was the last person to put gas in the other person's car and it always came back to me cheating on him. I know it was wrong but for him to throw it up in my face all the time was annoying. So, i left.
That was the breaking point of our relationship.
Now that I have experienced what happens when you cheat and what happens when you are cheated on, I do better. Now I rationalize before I do anything irrational that will ruin a relationship. Now, I will leave before I think about having relations with anyone else.
I consider myself a "reformed cheater". I know a lot of you won't agree but I would love to hear what you think.