Ballerific Relationships - When To Call? When Not To Call?


Words by Cassandra...

Since I've joined this site, I have seen a few questions asked about when and when not to call your baller so I am going to give you my input on when you should and when you should not call him and how to make him call you more.

First, let's say you meet a guy out somewhere (location does not matter) and you exchange numbers. You should be the one to take his number and send him a text with your name with instructions to save your number, therefore, he now has your number and does not forget your name and does not have to ask is this your real number.

Now we play the waiting game. You are not allowed to text him at anytime after that first text message with your name. Why? Simply because a guy likes a challenge and it also gives you a heads up if you should even waste your time with this guy. If he is interested in you, he will not let you slip away by not attempting to contact you. But you wonder, "What if he doesn't call?" That's good, because he probably has too much on his plate anyway and was overwhelmed by your beauty and thought with his d*** by getting your number before he thought with head on his shoulders. If you text him first, it makes you vulnerable and too available and you should never be either of the two. This is why you should keep a roster of men on your team so you don't have time to think about calling or texting one too much.

Let's say he text you instead of calling. Do not have a full conversation with him over text messaging. Make sure to keep it simple and cute and always end the conversations with him first. For example, if he asks you about your day, simply reply.. "My day was well/good/bad/mediocre I'll tell you about later when you give me a call." Once again, if he does not call, these are early signs that he is not worth your time ladies. We make the mistake of making excuses for them by saying, "he must be busy and forgot because he does this and he does that." Not true, no man is too busy to go after a woman that he really wants, he will make time even if it is 2 minutes.

Let's say he does call you to make plans for a date. Have a brief conversation and save your life story for dinner. Saturday is the perfect day to go on a date because you don't have to worry about your baller getting out of work too late or having to call it an early night because he has to go to work the next day. It is okay to call him the day before to confirm your date.. "We are still on for tomorrow at 7pm right?" Feel free to have another brief conversation but always seem busy and cut it short and leave him wanting more. Trust ladies, he will be calling you more than you think, you just have to take a risk of giving him the space and time to do so.

*side note* He will be calling you here and there, make sure not to answer the phone every time and to let him hear your voicemail occasionally. If he is a good catch, most girls are throwing themselves at him and you are taking a different approach by doing the complete opposite and this makes you stand out more.

Okay, so now you went on the date and now it's time to part ways again. Leave the ball in his court, tell him to give you a call at the end of the date. Never let him let you be the one to call until things with you and him get serious. When things become a little serious and consistent, IT'S OKAY TO CALL! Until then.. No waiting by the phone, no texting, no calling... JUST DO YOU! Keep busy and always have plans that way when he does call, he will know that you wasn't waiting on him to call. SO NO CALLING HIM! You will be amazed at how many men will be blowing your phone up.


~Sandra :)

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Tags: Baller, calls, phone, texting

Comment by scmami on October 10, 2008 at 1:31pm
good advice...men sure do love the chase
Comment by Sugar on October 10, 2008 at 1:47pm
Thanx missed ya !!!! Glad your back. Needed u...lol
Comment by Cassandra on October 10, 2008 at 1:55pm
I missed you ladies too. I been lurking here and there but haven't had enough time to actually speak my mind. I have a lot of blogs coming soon! :) Thanks Boss!
Comment by Black_celebutante on October 10, 2008 at 1:58pm
Took your time with giving us a blog cass was starting to give up on you. haha

but that is great advice
Comment by Stephbaby on October 10, 2008 at 2:41pm
Thankx :-)
Comment by Miss Vogue on October 10, 2008 at 3:02pm
good read and its so true, men like a chase!
Comment by babydoll on October 10, 2008 at 3:04pm
Mwah!!!! And when he don't call... resort to the Jazmine Sullivan method!!! LMAO!!!

Missed you, Cass!!!
Comment by Blu on October 10, 2008 at 3:10pm
Thanks Cass!
Comment by C.J. on October 10, 2008 at 3:52pm
Spoken like a true master.
Comment by C.J. on October 10, 2008 at 3:56pm
Spoken like a true master.

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