For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
We have all seen girl on girl action in the club and it does get the attention of men. Men love it... most men fantasize about having a Ménage à trois.
I was in the club the other night and saw two girls I know getting it on..they were kissing and grinding on each other. The next day I commented that they did a performance and they said it was for show. They claimed they were not gay/bi-sexual but it was just to get attention of men.
I have also heard strippers say "we gotta go act gay" Meaning dance on each other. They claim that gets more money because men love it so much.
A barsexual woman kisses/flirts/dances/grinds on other women in the clubs for attention. A bisexual is attracted to both sexes. Bisexually does not require that a person be attracted equally to both sexes...the dictionary says attracted not sexually active. Don't you have to be attracted to someone to be barsexual with them? What is the difference?
I also remember a forum when some girls talked about girl crushes... It was mostly straight women talking about women who they thought was attractive to and who they thought was hot. Is this normal? Do we hear straight men talking about hot dudes?
Barsexuals do act like bisexuals in the clubs. Often they blame the likka or other drugs for acting this way (excluding the girls that practice this before they go out - yes girls do practice fake kissing and grinding). What's the saying about a drunk mind?
While researching I saw that this subject was on the Tyra Banks show (check out the video):
I also found this (written on a bi-sexual website):
Barsexual - From what I’ve been able to gather, it’s the name for the growing trend of girls who go to bars and kiss each other (usually while drunk), for the sole amusement and entertainment of guys—but say
they are straight and would never do anything more. In the minds of too
many people in both the gay and straight communities, this is what
[some people] think most bisexual women are—just straight girls who are
looking for attention and trying to please guys.
Many bisexual women’s (including my viewpoint) natural tendency is to get angry—we don’t want to be stereotyped, or have our sexuality associated with
something fake—that is just done for entertainment. We feel it cheapens
the concept of real bisexuality and leads to people saying it’s fake—it
doesn’t exist, or it’s just a phase, or worse yet, that bisexuals are
sleazy opportunists and bisexual women are nothing more than sex
objects. It only adds insult to injury to hear that many of these barsexuals say
they’re really straight, or so the story goes, anyway. I’ve heard
several bisexual female friends say “I wish they would just be labeled
as straight girls looking to entertain, not bisexuals.” I most
definitely sympathize with that frustration, as I’ve felt a lot myself
when hearing about this, but recently I’ve been thinking and have begun
to ask myself: are all these girls really just “straight fakers,” doing
it for attention? Or could some of them be bisexuals who just are not
giving people the best impression of bisexuality, or just coming out,
or people who came out. Or could some of them be questioning and unsure of their orientation.
That statement really made me think, and it makes a good point. While I definitely don’t doubt that there is a sizable chunk of these “barsexuals” who are straight, it wouldn’t surprise me if some of them
did turn out to be bisexual, or emerging bisexuals. We see this trend
in porn movies too—while sometimes the “girl on girl” ones made for men
will be just straight women doing “gay for pay”, there are bisexual
women involved in that kind of work as well. And as much as both
instances might make some of us cringe because it’s really not giving
the rest of the world the best impression of bisexual women, it doesn’t
necessarily mean that they are not bisexual—if they are, they are,
whether they express it right or not. Should we automatically label
them “fake bisexuals” just because we don’t like how they express it?
And who gets to make these rules anyway?
Is it that deep or women just wanting to have fun? Thoughts?