We have all seen girl on girl action in the club and it does get the attention of men. Men love it... most men fantasize about having a Ménage à trois.

I was in the club the other night and saw two girls I know getting it on..they were kissing and grinding on each other. The next day I commented that they did a performance and they said it was for show. They claimed they were not gay/bi-sexual but it was just to get attention of men.

I have also heard strippers say "we gotta go act gay" Meaning dance on each other. They claim that gets more money because men love it so much.

A barsexual woman kisses/flirts/dances/grinds on other women in the clubs for attention. A bisexual is attracted to both sexes. Bisexually does not require that a person be attracted equally to both sexes...the dictionary says attracted not sexually active. Don't you have to be attracted to someone to be barsexual with them? What is the difference?

I also remember a forum when some girls talked about girl crushes... It was mostly straight women talking about women who they thought was attractive to and who they thought was hot. Is this normal? Do we hear straight men talking about hot dudes?


Barsexuals do act like bisexuals in the clubs. Often they blame the likka or other drugs for acting this way (excluding the girls that practice this before they go out - yes girls do practice fake kissing and grinding). What's the saying about a drunk mind?

While researching I saw that this subject was on the Tyra Banks show (check out the video):

I also found this (written on a bi-sexual website):

Barsexual - From what I’ve been able to gather, it’s the name for the growing trend of girls who go to bars and kiss each other (usually while drunk), for the sole amusement and entertainment of guys—but say
they are straight and would never do anything more. In the minds of too
many people in both the gay and straight communities, this is what
[some people] think most bisexual women are—just straight girls who are
looking for attention and trying to please guys.

Many bisexual women’s (including my viewpoint) natural tendency is to get angry—we don’t want to be stereotyped, or have our sexuality associated with
something fake—that is just done for entertainment. We feel it cheapens
the concept of real bisexuality and leads to people saying it’s fake—it
doesn’t exist, or it’s just a phase, or worse yet, that bisexuals are
sleazy opportunists and bisexual women are nothing more than sex
objects. It only adds insult to injury to hear that many of these barsexuals say
they’re really straight, or so the story goes, anyway. I’ve heard
several bisexual female friends say “I wish they would just be labeled
as straight girls looking to entertain, not bisexuals.” I most
definitely sympathize with that frustration, as I’ve felt a lot myself
when hearing about this, but recently I’ve been thinking and have begun
to ask myself: are all these girls really just “straight fakers,” doing
it for attention? Or could some of them be bisexuals who just are not
giving people the best impression of bisexuality, or just coming out,
or people who came out. Or could some of them be questioning and unsure of their orientation.

That statement really made me think, and it makes a good point. While I definitely don’t doubt that there is a sizable chunk of these “barsexuals” who are straight, it wouldn’t surprise me if some of them
did turn out to be bisexual, or emerging bisexuals. We see this trend
in porn movies too—while sometimes the “girl on girl” ones made for men
will be just straight women doing “gay for pay”, there are bisexual
women involved in that kind of work as well. And as much as both
instances might make some of us cringe because it’s really not giving
the rest of the world the best impression of bisexual women, it doesn’t
necessarily mean that they are not bisexual—if they are, they are,
whether they express it right or not. Should we automatically label
them “fake bisexuals” just because we don’t like how they express it?
And who gets to make these rules anyway?


Is it that deep or women just wanting to have fun? Thoughts?

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Tags: barsexual, bisexual

Comment by University of Smitty on February 24, 2010 at 8:49am
I think they just havent completely come out of the closet yet. My threesome fantasy involves me and 2 men. I can honestly say that I have NEVER seen a woman I was attracted to.
Comment by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on February 24, 2010 at 10:39am
@Smitty stay out of my fantasy closet! lol Idk, we have so many people going both ways around Bmore. It's like a trend or something. I can truly say I am dyckly till I die.
Comment by ReadytoSettleDown on February 24, 2010 at 12:25pm
i am attracted to both sexes.
would i be in a relationship with a woman?
would i sleep with a woman?...i don't know
will i dance and let a stripper lick my nipps?...yes
when i see a pretty woman with a phat ass or some juicy tits i say "hmm, i was about to smack your ass but..." then if she says "go ahead ma" then i do...2 or 3 times (but i can usually pick up on a vibe if a women is "friendly")...

i'm more of a sexual being, i consider myself a free spirit...i don't do it for men's attention, as a matter of fact i would be think a man was stupid if he asked me to take part in a threesome with a woman, i do it because i'm attracted sexyness...does that make sense or do ya'll think i'm a bisexual in the making?...
Comment by Ms. Ashley Banks on February 24, 2010 at 1:18pm
HA @ all of your responses. At Ready to Settle Down, I understand what you're saying. A professor was telling us that women find other women's bodies attractive because we're hypersexualized in the media. You always see semi-naked women in advertising, on TV, everywhere you go female flesh is being peddled. We equate breasts with being sexy. I do get a little "titillated" when I see strippers or something, but not enough to want to sleep with one. I always dispel that energy on a man.

@ Smitty, Eve, and Cherry, I too want more than one guy. I've gotten close, but someone always chickens out.
Comment by University of Smitty on February 24, 2010 at 1:42pm
@ EVE It may have seemed like I was in your closet but actually, I just left the "or more" in mine.

I have my fair share of titties, so I dont notice other women's breast. As for azzez, I do notice big ones but not in an 'I want to smack it' kinda way. More of a "I hate that b**ch" kinda way
Comment by Pamela on February 24, 2010 at 2:07pm
This is funny.
I had the opportunity to get my Chocolate vs Vanilla on with two hot guys but i cared about one of them so i couldn't do

Wish I had now.

I guess this is talking about me. I will kiss girls and I love breast but I won't do more than that.

However, I have accepted more than that from them but I'm always up fornt and honest.
I don't consider myself BI or Confused....I'm straight......JUST A DAMN FREAK!
Comment by Pamela on February 24, 2010 at 2:08pm
I also DON"T do it for attention either. It is all about me.
Comment by MoCha M. on February 24, 2010 at 4:29pm
yeah i want 2 guys too...**in my pop's voice** dont tell noooobody!!
Comment by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on February 24, 2010 at 5:19pm
LOL @ Smitty & Pamela. I had the chance to do two guys once also and chickened out. I knew one of them had a small peen and that is NOT part of the fantasy lol
Comment by University of Smitty on February 24, 2010 at 5:56pm
If you say so Ms. Davis **waving my arms & clucking** LMAO


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