Ballerific Relationships: Can a Baby Keep a Man?

Today we hear a lot about women who get pregnant in hopes of salvaging a relationship that is either: a) Going down the drain or b) Has her nose wide open and feels she is ready for that step with him or c) Involved unprotected sex with a baller she just met and seeks a come-up (no no no shade!)

Children are no longer symbols of true love, contrary to popular belief. Although some babies like Blue Ivy and North West tell a story, many women on the non-celeb level have children who are tales of a night of deceit and shame.

Nonetheless, I find the thought processes that go into making this life altering decision fascinating. I want to answer the age-old question, “Can a Baby Keep a Man?”

The answer is very simply, ‘YES’, but just not the way you imagined it or had planned. As far as presence is concerned, he’ll be there (if he has any moral fabric in his character), but your calls will be cell-to-cell and not room-to-room. You’ll see him at a mutual location to swap the baby, nothing more than 5 minutes. Even then, the calls may ensue an argument about why the child support payment is late or short. ‘Circumstantial babies’ (can I coin that?) are more of a burden than a blessing to parents who conceive them with malicious intent. This only worsens when their plans of a ‘ballerific life’ are dampened. A baby normally only slows the mother down.

Money is the driving factor of who gets picked to be the baby daddy. No girl who doesn’t live in a small country town in Alabama is getting pregnant, on purpose, for the bus driver and mail man… Your plan to become baby mama turned wife has exploded and you’re now given only a small piece of the empire monthly on the sole basis of caring for your kid. Your name goes nowhere and still generates no money, although you’ll be discussed by other women who will follow in your footsteps, and dwindle your money amounts because your pick doesn’t generate enough revenue to cover nine children.

The biggest loss, however, is the child who is doomed to succumb this fate. Children need positive influences surrounding them. Your children pick up on everything you allow them to see and experience. Using your child as a pawn to be festive in baby themed parties at the focal point of your friends and having hopes of bridal fever soon is a sick thought process. Your child’s frame of reference will consist of drama and bad vibes that can spiral their growth into a negative direction.

Finding a baller shouldn’t ever come with the expense of causing another human to serve as a patch for a botched union (if that.) The way it looks on TV is NOT how it plays out in real life. It isn’t all dinner parties and ball gowns by a long shot… Sometimes ‘Plan B’ is a better option than A (you’ll get that tomorrow.) Now go and be great!