Do Platonic Friendships Between The Opposite Sex Work?

Can platonic friendships happen between members of the opposite sex? It's a given that men always want to have sex and women will likely become emotional and fall in love. I have lots of male friends and I won't even begin to pretend as if I wouldn't sleep with them if the opportunity presented itself. Fact is, we're human.

 

Saying that you could be platonic friends with someone of the opposite sex is easy when you're not attracted to them, so lets take them out of the equation. This blog is not directed towards the men and women that you don't find sexually attractive or you consider your "brother" or "sister". Let's not consider them at this time. Let's talk about those who you do find sexually attractive. Those that under most circumstances you would find yourself bedding at every given opportunity. Those that you've probably had a great sexual relationship with, but would much rather just be friends. 

 

I personally think that it is almost impossible to have a platonic friendship with someone you are sexually attracted to without somehow driving yourself crazy. You have to constantly remind yourself that you can't have sex with them, and the reasons why. Things will eventually become awkward when you two are together. Sexual tension almost always occurs. How many guys do you hear say "Hey, Lakiesha is fine as hell" and his boy says "Would you hit her?" and he replies "Nah, she's my BFF".......

 

Exactly, you never hear it because it doesn't happen! Two sexually attracted individuals can't be "BFF's". In fact, if he wants to be your BFF, he's interested in your love below, plain and simple. A woman who befriends a very attractive guy is only setting herself for eventually having feelings for him. It's inevitable and trying to avoid it is futile. Trust me, I know! LOL. If you find yourself friends with someone of the opposite sex and they hadn't tried to make a move on you, chances are they're just not attracted to you. Two people attracted to each other (not emotionally, but even just sexually) can't be friends. No way!

 

If you've made it work, maybe you're in the small percentage or maybe you're going to have sex with your BFF sooner than you think. 

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Comment by DJ - A.K.A - DON_JUAN on October 19, 2011 at 10:35am
yea if there is no attraction. one of my best friends is a female and i dont have any desire to smash. *shrugs shoulders*
Comment by Baller Alert on October 19, 2011 at 10:39am
I agree DJ.. I have several platonic male friends. Only a smut couldn't have plantonic friends of the opposite sex.
Comment by blackfujones on October 19, 2011 at 10:52am
Im sorry but you will have sex or some type of interaction with that so-called platonic friend.
Comment by Dark~N~Lovely on October 19, 2011 at 10:54am
I have a really close male friend and we kick it everyday. My husband allows me to go out with him and he leaves us at the house sometimes together. Never once has either of us crossed the lines (I would never). But everyone thinks he's gay inclding my husband. I'm not sure what to think. I've never seen him with a woman, but he has told me about girls he's interested in. Idk?!?!?!?!?
Comment by Siren on October 19, 2011 at 11:06am
I also have very good platonic friends one of whom attended my wedding with his gf and he and my husband are now good friends. men and women can be friends...that spark is not always there.
Comment by DJ - A.K.A - DON_JUAN on October 19, 2011 at 11:33am

well i cant speak for no other niggaz but s*** aint that serious. i value someone that will be there for me when i need them more then a quick piece of ass that could ruin a life long friendship. i control my d***, it doesnt control me.

Comment by Monica Amazing on October 19, 2011 at 11:36am

My best friend is a guy.  We've been friends since I was 16 and have never crossed that line nor want to. Men and women can be just friends. #shrugs

 

 

Comment by Phoenix on October 19, 2011 at 11:45am

Yessss DJ! Grown man ish!

I have male friends, but I'm not attracted to them. But they're attracted to me, so I try and keep my distance. I have one male friend who idk if he's attracted to me. But we're like BFF's...he says I'll be his second marriage....the first time he'll marry for love. lol 

Comment by Baller Alert on October 19, 2011 at 11:49am
My best friend is a male... and it's sad that people say you can't be platonic friends with the opposite sex. They must have no values or morals.
Comment by blackfujones on October 19, 2011 at 12:07pm
im sorry but i looked at what exactly the post said...it didnt talk about friends who werent attractive or friends that you didnt have some sort of sexual feelings for. I have platonic female friends who I wouldnt screw simply because im too much for them. But my only female friend who i consider my best chic buddy hell we started off hangin n f****** when we were younger. Got older and knew we'd rather not screw n just be friends.  So again ask yourself, about those associates who you know is sexy/handsome whatever. Would you bed them if the opportunity presented itself.

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