Do You Tell Your Best Friend You Hate Her Man?

Let’s say you have a best friend who you have been good friends with for a very long time. She has met a new guy and it is becoming very serious. You notice that there are a few things that just aren’t right about him. You don’t want to come off wrong but you want to tell her that you’re just not feeling him for her, what do you do?

There are many ways to look at this situation. You love your friend and you want nothing but the best for her but of course if you are single, she will simply assume that you are jealous of the great thing she has. Sure, you aren’t blinded by the power of his penis and from the outside looking in, you’re able to see him for who he really is but at what cost is it worth telling your best bud? Do you risk hurting her feelings? Every good friend wants her BFF to get along with her man. Let’s face it, it makes life 10x easier. She doesn’t want to hide the fact that she’s with him and she certainly doesn’t want to hide from him that she is with you. She wants to be able to talk to you about her man problems but if she knows that you don’t care for him, she’s more reluctant to do so. You spilling the beans on your feelings may drive a wedge between you two. On the other hand, at some point it will become apparent that you don’t mesh with her new beaux. I can speak for myself when I say I make it very obvious if I don’t like you, and a lot of times it’s not on purpose. Soon you’ll make smart comments, wrinkle your face up when he’s around and roll your eyes at the sight of him. It’s only a matter of time before she realizes that things aren’t cool. Chances are she won’t be happy with that either. 

But what if you are truly trying to protect her? You’ve heard things about him through the grapevine. His past girlfriends say that he can become possessive over time and you’ve seen him out with other women, it’s obvious that things just aren’t right with him and you HAVE to tell your girl. So you do. She hates you at first, but that’s until she opens her eyes and sees that you are right. It may take days, months or years but she eventually will thank you. You saved her from making a huge mistake and had she just listened to you earlier, she wouldn’t have wasted so much of her time. 

Then there is option 3…you learn to deal with him for the sake of your friend. Who knows, you may end up liking him.