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There's nothing worse than the disrespectful female friend. This is the female that was friends with your man before you came into the picture that somehow feels entitled to your man because she came first. She has no tact when it comes to respecting your relationship and if he dare ignores her, she throws a fit. This girl has a problem and your man better put her in check.
Often times men are far too clueless to see that their female friend is acting out for attention. Half the time they're not smart enough to see that the same female friend that is acting out, has been throwing signs that she had feelings for him for some time now. Men just don't get it. Women hardly go through this same scenario because we respect our men enough to let our friends know that our man's feelings come first. Well, maybe not first, but they're pretty important. Men on the other hand don't know how to juggle female friends and their new girl and end up in a very tough position when the friend over steps her boundaries and p***** the new girl off.
The problem with your boo's homegirl is that women tend to be catty and territorial. If we were here first, we want to come first. Women can't accept that another woman could possibly take our place. Look at the way Jim Jones' mother acts around Chrissy. She's a mother that can never be replaced by any woman but is still very territorial over her son. Imagine a homegirl every time a new boo comes around? She's afraid, she's insecure and in a few cases she's secretly in love.
Fellas, this is where it is your responsibility to get everything in check. Failure to do so will result in a relationship that is less than pleasant. You must establish boundaries with your female friend. The key is to let her know that there isn't a reason to feel insecure and that she can never be replaced. At the same time you want to inform her that her behavior is unacceptable and is going to put a strain on your friendship. You don't have to force the two to become friends, but it helps to put the offer on the table. You never know, she might like the new girl.
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Comment by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on August 16, 2012 at 12:01pm Naw, it comes down to who are you sharing the bed with. If your "friend" has issues with your woman then maybe you need to let the "friend" go her own way. Period. That's the way I'd handle any male friend that had a problem with my man for no good reason. Because it is obvious they are feeling way more than friendship.
A true female friend will be happy for him and respect his relationship..point blank period.
If she doesn't like the girl or wants to have sex with the man and doesn't want him to have anyone else she should be an adult and straight up and let him know...then HE has to decide what to do. But until she does that and lets him know her true feelings, she is constantly compromising his relationships and well as their friendships.
Comment by Miss Double Kiss on August 16, 2012 at 3:55pm why is a guy so "friendly" though? A dude with so many female "friends" will ALWAYS get the side eye from me because in this day of age, there is a very fine line between friend and a f*ck buddy and I mean finer than the hair on a frog's a**. THAT FINE. Now people just say "she's my homie" and that's a dead giveaway that y'all probably f*cking. Most guys who casually throw out the "friend" line has already "cut" with ol girl but it's just to save face. Best believe the reason that "friend" is so territorial because he's already fed her to his mattress.
When a guy is truly just a friend with a female he says, "we're cool", shrugs his shoulders and thinks nothing of it because she a sister type to him. Still it's rare to find a female within a circle that a guy hasn't f*cked or thought about it.
Comment by tnlady on August 16, 2012 at 11:46pm This doesn't sound like a real friend. It sounds more like a former f*(k buddy. The only reason I've ever seen a friend say something is if the girlfriend was one of those sneaky chicks.
Comment by Lady on August 17, 2012 at 5:13pm TEYANA TAYLOR
Comment by glamazon on August 19, 2012 at 2:11am LOL, this post made me chuckle because I don't think it has anything to do with the friend. The FELLAS need to live their truth and set themselves straight - that is if they really respect you and want to be with you in the first place. The painted scenario sounds like said friend was not even just a friend, and in that case you need to point it out and if it's not settled, let his ass go.
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