Hey Fellas, Here's The Real Reason We Wear Weave

It has come to my attention that men are more concerned about women's hair care than us women are. Supposedly straight men (straight men who supposedly aren't hair dressers) for some reason are so concerned about our hair texture, hair color and why women choose to wear weave that they have tweeted about it, posted youtube videos and raged on Facebook. I never knew that man could be so concerned about something that has nothing to do with them -- until now. Well fortunately for you fellas, here is a breakdown as to why women wear weave.

First of all, women aren't wearing weaves because we want to be European. If that is the case, why are European and Spanish women wearing weaves? Do they want to be black women who want to be European? Can you see how asinine that sounds? Women wear weave for versatility. We love the option of going from short, to long, from black, to blonde without the worries of damaging our natural hair. I mean, how else can I rock fire engine red tresses while my natural hair remains nestled comfortably untouched. See, I haven't had to put a relaxer in my hair for about a year now. So while my hair is growing beautifully, avoiding heat, chemicals and other damaging products, I am out here working this beautiful 26 inch sew in. Get your life! 

That leads me into my next point. Women wear weaves for protection. Not every woman with a sew in or a wig is wearing one because she is bald. Sad misconception that some He-Man-Black-Woman-Hater told you. In fact, because of the amount of protection a woman gets by wearing a weave, most women who wear weaves are able to grow their hair out at a rapid pace. Imagine not having to apply heat to your hair day in and day out or not having to tug at it and pull it ALL the time. Don't be fools, many women wit the longest weaves have equally long hair and simply wear a weave to maintain that. 

I personally wear a weave for the manageability. My hair and humidity don't play well. It just so happens I always live in the most humid areas. Do I want to put curls in my hair and it fall or put curls in my weave and it stays a while longer? Do I want to fuss with my hair today or just shake and go? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that the obvious choice would be a weave in this case. The slightest change in weather puffs up my hair. I simply can't be bothered.

Sometimes we want a different texture. I don't have kinky hair but if I want kinky hair I know that it is just a hair store away. Sometimes I want big curls, body waves, tight curls or bone straight and guess what, I can afford to have all of those things. Do we wear weave for length? Yes. Manageability? Absolutely! Some girls may even want a new look, but that does NOT mean that we hate our heritage and have a low self esteem. Black women aren't even the primary race to wear weave. Other women wear it too, they just call it extensions. Paris Hilton has been running around here with Brazilian hair in her head for years and I have yet to hear some fool say "She's trying to be European". Again, do you know why? Because that is stupid. If I wanted to be another ethnicity, I would have to change more than my hair to do so. I have an African name and African skin honey, no one is buying that I'm European just because I have 26 inch hair in. In fact, my hair doesn't even come from Europe so if ANYTHING wouldn't you say I want to be Brazilian, Indian, Peruvian or Malaysian? Clearly I'm not wearing my French hair today and I think my Belgium hair is still in the mail. 

Some of you men wouldn't even date a natural haired sista because you think she's too "afro-centric" yet want to police how much or how little weave I put in mine. You lust over women with hair down their butt but say that YOUR girlfriend can't wear weave. If you're so concerned about women's hair, you should get into cosmetology, better yet, put in the funds for my hair's upkeep. Please, don't think for one second that we honestly care about what you think and that we are saying ANY form of hair is wrong. From dreadlocks to extensions, what women do with our hair is none of your business.

Why is it that only black women have low self esteem when we wear weaves or only black women want to be a race that we aren't? Asians, Spanish women and even Caucasian women have been competing with us in the weave world for YEARS. In fact, they are buying their hair and getting it installed by black stylists because it's cheaper. So thank you men for your theories on why women wear weaves, but you're entirely off base. Stick to things that straight men should be talking about like Sports, cars and Finances. Stay out of women's discussions about beauty products and hair care. 

You look gay.

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Comment by McKenna Hylton on September 9, 2013 at 9:38am

I have said before and I will say it again; until men start dealing with more than 1/8 inch of their hair for years at a time, I can't take anything arguments they make about black women's hair seriously.  It will always be a moot point for me to hear what I should do with my hair from a person who won't deal with his. I don't know of any men that know how to braid, dread, coiffure, or even maintain their own hair but I know tons that can cut/line up better than barbers. 

Comment by McKenna Hylton on September 9, 2013 at 9:40am

Here you go Spice

Comment by McKenna Hylton on September 9, 2013 at 9:40am

Comment by Miss Good on September 9, 2013 at 10:17am

Actually, the truth is white (or should I say women other than black women) have been wearing weaves FAR before black women ever did. This dates back to the colonial times. But back then it was wigs. Wearing wigs meant you had wealth and in the colonial times, in america, the only ppl who could have wealth were white.

In todays day and age EVERYBODY wears weave bc of the reasons eleven mentioned. Black men think black women wear it bc we are bald but that is not the case. Women other than black women get away with wearing weave ONLY bc their hair blends better. The truth is black women are the ONLY women with our hair texture. It is difficult to care for which is why it sometimes seems as it cant grow. But the less you do to it, the more it grows. Which brings it back to the point to why most black women wear weave in the first place. I have had white and hispanic coworkers show me the tracks in their head bc I couldnt believe they had a weave.

They are also able to do techiniques that we cant such as fusion, simply bc their hair blends better. But it really is pointless trying to explain this to black men. They try to find reasons to tell us that we hate ourselves but everything they point out proves to be things done by women outside of our race.

But back to the weaves, I WILL admit that certain hairstyles like the one side shaved, the blue & purple weave, etc is tacky. I like natural weaves (even though I had my ghetto phases) and maybe these are the hairstyles black men talk about. But white women still do s*** like this to their hair too. ie, Cassie, Katy Perry, Nicole Ritchie, etc.

Men just need to cease all comments about women. They must really want to be a women themselves

Comment by University of Smitty on September 9, 2013 at 10:40am

This is what p***** me off about the "woe is black men, women, and children" discussions.  The first thing said is "other races don't...." as if they have the slightest clue about what other races do.

Comment by Claudette Berry on September 9, 2013 at 11:41am
Men Kill me with this. Saying that we wear weaves to look European. If that's the case does that mean White Girls who get curly perms want to be African? No one gets on women of other races for their tans, lip injections, perms, and anything else they get to look more "urban", but we get bashed as soon as we think about putting a track of Indian hair in our heads. Its BS, but I really don't care, I feel that this Hatred for Black Women is just a trend! Its sad though.
Comment by SoLuscious on September 9, 2013 at 11:55am

lmaooo at that photo of Kourtney K.

Comment by rich on September 9, 2013 at 11:57am

Okay, this makes alot more sense (protection, variety, etc). I used to have long hair in highschool and it was annoying trying to maintain it and keep it done. I have decided to cut 7 years ago and dont plan on growing it back lol. 

I dont have an issue with black women wearing weaves. My mother and aunts wear weaves so i could really care less. It's just not my preference. My wife doesn't wear weave and I find her more beautiful everyday. I love how black women hair looks when it's natural (again, just my opinion). 

I always knew women of other races wore extras in their hair. The reason why many men don't realize it's weave is because the hair that the non black women buy LOOKS like their hair. So it makes it hard to determine if its real. On the other hand, it is very easy to tell when a black woman is wearing weave. 

Also, I know many black women that ALWAYS wear weave and have never showed their own hair. When black women wear weave, they just look TOTALLY different. There were some occasions where I didn't recognize a woman that I have seen yesterday because they would change their hair from honey blonde to straight black. 

The whole weave thing just isn't my cup of tea. 

Comment by Denise Love on September 9, 2013 at 12:06pm

Actually black women have been wearing wigs since the ancient Egyptian times. It makes me wonder if they were doing it for the same reason as black women today.

Do you ladies think that black men chase after these "exotic" chicks because of hair? Do you think black women with weaves encourage them to do that?

I don't have anything against black women wearing weaves at all... It's just a question, because I've heard this theory.

One thing I have to say, I love to see a fellow black woman sporting her natural do. We as black women are so friggin gorgeous! I'm glad to see more women embracing their natural hair. But black women have always done exotic things to their hair for centuries, so this is nothing new...

Just my opinion:-)

Comment by Eleven8 on September 9, 2013 at 12:13pm

@Denise Love

Here at Baller Alert "Exotic" is a four letter word. But if you're referring to exotic in the way I think you are, they wear weaves too. (i.e. - the Kardashian photo on the first page of the comments)

So to answer your question, No.


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