His Cell Phone: Look And You WILL Find!

His cell phone is sitting on the table. He gets a text message. He's in the shower. Do you peek at his phone and see who the text is from? Do you stop at just looking at one text or do you go through his entire phone? Statistics show that once every minute a woman is sneaking through her man's cell phone and calling back numbers that she doesn't recognize. Nevermind where I pulled the statistics from, just know it's happening right now as we speak!

 

Allow me to put you guys on some game that I too had to learn the hard way. If you look through his cell phone, you will find exactly what you were looking for. Let me explain why. If your man has lead you to believe that he is cheating, chances are he is and if you look through his phone you're going to find proof of that. If you didn't think he was cheating, would you look? Probably not. It's clear you don't trust the man anyway. I'm a firm believer that once trust is gone, it's gone and no matter how much we try to lie to ourselves, there are slim chances of ever getting it back. So if you've cheated on me once, it's safe to assume in the back of my mind I think you'll cheat on me twice. So if I see your phone sitting on the dining room unattended and a text message comes through, I may be inclined to peek, but I already know what I'm in for.

 

Then you have the overzealous woman that has been cheated on a million times but has never caught the man she's with doing her wrong. Even if she looks in his phone and doesn't find a thing, do you think it will stop there? No! In her mind all signs lead to "He's Cheating" and if she doesn't find any incriminating evidence this time, it's either check back next time or he's just really good at hiding it. The woman scorn will never be happy until she truly finds her man cheating. So she will check his phone a million times until she's found something to prove her case. Even if it isn't anything close to what she believes it is, her imagination will run wild. He is wrong and she will be right. 

 

So no matter how you slice it, if you're looking through a man's phone you're going to find exactly what you went looking for. Either he's cheating or you're going to convince yourself that he is. So what's the point? If you don't trust him why are you still in the relationship? I had to learn this the hard way. I found myself giving entirely too much of my energy into waiting for him to go to sleep so I can check his call logs or waiting for him to slip so I could snoop. I realized that it was just making me crazy. When there is no trust, we can never truly be happy. At this point I'd rather save the time and energy and keep it moving. So I've adopted a new way of thinking. No more sneaking, no more snooping. If for any reason I feel that a man is up to no good he gets ONE chance to prove to me he's not. We communicate. If he tells me he's not messing around and I believe him in my heart, that should be enough. If I still have my doubts and reservations, I'm free to walk. I encourage all of my women to think the same because this sneaky stuff is for the birds. 

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Tags: cell, cheater, phone, relationships

Comment by Mello826BA aka BAGroupie on August 31, 2011 at 10:46am
Agreed, I always was told, when you go looking for trouble, 90% of the time you're going to find it & most times curiosity always kills the cat...been there, done that & learned from it all.
Comment by Creative Bee on August 31, 2011 at 11:33am
I agree, I do background checks and my gut is my best adviser, men are not as good as women at hiding things unless they are sick sociopaths, a lot of times it's all on a surface just open your eyes and see. I don't go through anything and i don't friend on social networks.
Comment by blackfujones on August 31, 2011 at 12:47pm
if i was next to ya id hug ya..lawd learn these women puhlease
Comment by Desiree' on August 31, 2011 at 1:06pm
been there done that aint beat no more
Comment by PrettyPretty on August 31, 2011 at 7:20pm
Why search through the phone you only do that as confirmation as to what your gut feeling been telling you

Comment by Peachkyss on June 13, 2013 at 8:23pm

I know this all too well. I had to learn the hard way as well but had to learn that snooping and finding that confirmation, hurts me even more. That relationship ended with trust issues that I had NO time for. I had to learn that what ever happens in the dark will come to the light.

Comment by LadyLuckDC on June 13, 2013 at 9:00pm
This is 100% true. I've never been one to look through the phone. If you think he is cheating most of the time he is. I never want to be with anyone I feel the need to search behind. If you dont have trust you don't have nothing.
Comment by BlkBarbie on June 14, 2013 at 10:19am

I must admit I'm guilty of doing this. Our relationship had all kinds of trust issues, he was guilty of doing it to me as well. Neither of us ever found anything in the other's phone. By the time the relationship was over and done with we later learned that neither of us was doing any wrong when we was together, and we let trust issues from our past ruin what was once a great relationship. So I don't agree with going through the ppls phones, bc eventually it will come out what they are doing.

Comment by SoLuscious on June 14, 2013 at 12:47pm

I agree 100%

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