Okay, so you met him. You got him. He’s giving you money here and there. You ask, he gives. You want, he buys. Good? Not really. Why? Because there’s always more.

You need to have him ‘sponsor’ you. Tell him what your monthly allowance is. Start high. Between 5-10K a month is acceptable for some. Tally up your bills and see how much you need to handle that and all your other business. This should include travel, clothing and expense money. You may also need something for your little side business you workin’ on for the come up. Invest some for a rainy day, too. Do not accept less than 3K/month. The objective here is that you want him to give you the money so you can do as you see fit. You want it on auto-pilot. Paypal or direct deposit, baby. Some ballers like Paypal because it looks like a business transaction (he may even tell you what to name the account) rather than him putting money in a personal checking under your name. He has to cover his ass first. He don’t have to think about it, neither do you. It's in your bank account (or transferred from Paypal), same time, every month. Most likely it’ll come from one of his hidden accounts, but that has nothing to do with you.

Now, it’s a big step when you have a sponsor and cash coming to you on auto-pilot like this. This means there’s nothing you can say ‘no’ to. Your body, your mind, your soul is his. (P.S.A.- If you get pregnant, keep the baby no matter what he wants (more on this later)). He's taking care of you. You must be willing to do whatever. You also have to f*** and own him in bed. Don’t just lay there all the time. He wants it in the ass? Bend over. Your ass, not his, but he may ask for that, too. He wants you to bring a girl friend to bed. Your body is his playground. If he is nice, he won’t push you. This would be ideal. To be “cool” with your sponsor, that is. In most cases, your "sponsor" is not your man, and has a main love--his money, his business, his other women, or his wife. Do not challenge him with any of these. Don’t piss him off. Don’t threaten him. Don't go craaaazy.

There are some sick brothers out there who will test you. Be ready. You'll have to make a choice then. Always, always, be discreet. Never tell. Take it to your death. I don’t care if the wife got the video with you two in it, it ain’t you! Remember, if you out him, he’ll cut you off. The trust is gone. Girlfriends are an exception, no one cares about them.

If all goes well, you will be one of the many women living quiet lives like this—no drama, no stress, and they eventually meet another baller they can actually settle down with because of the access their new (money) life style affords them. Your sponsor may or may not be marriage material. Do not wait for him, even if you do love him! Just like he can easily replace you (which is not as common if he is married, you have to be ready to move on to the next thing). Never tell anyone how you get your money. A real chick never does because her ability to be discreet and mysterious is what draws the men to her. This is a top chick, very experienced, you will never see her.

Got that? Good. Next, about major gifts: Your ‘sponsor’ has been looking out for you and you, him. You want a car. If he “buys” you a car, make sure it is an all cash buy. No car payments. Because he can stop that when he wants and the car will get impounded. Demand all cash buys or you will not accept gifts. This shouldn’t be a problem if points in previous paragraphs are being taken care of. Don’t be a fool, these men are very smart these days. Girl, you have to play the game right or it will play you!

So, he wants to get you an apartment near him? Make sure it is a condo. No rentals. Again, for same reasons as above. (P.S.A: I see your face. You don’t think he’ll listen if you ask. Do it. He’s gonna wonder what’s wrong with you if you don’t. Let him know what you’re worth. They love that s***. Know your man, ladies. Don’t ask Lil Rapper C-Town if you know he’s about jumpoffs. We’re talking the big leagues here) If he buys you an apartment, make sure it is an all cash buy. No payments. And he if is ballin’ like that, an all cash buy should be standard for him. If you have a baller with a car payment, I’d run him through a background check. Either he’s real ghetto or real stupid.

Recap: start a paypal account right away just in case because you need to have your business in order—you never know when you’ll meet him; set up your allowance terms with him; accept only all cash buys on major gifts, no payments; do not move into rentals, only condo paid in full, no mortgage. Ride the wave until it crashes because the “set up” will end, but at least you got yours.

Get ‘em girl!