They do exist. Let's give fathers a break for a second and direct the deadbeat mother. Some of these women have custody of their children, that's the worst part in the entire situation. There are many times where the court will favor the mother yet don't realize the child would be better off being raised by a pack of wolves. Let's discuss the unfit parent shall we?

 

In recent events people would use Draya Michele as an example. I wouldn't exactly call her a deadbeat mom. She loves her child, I'm sure she does. I'd say she was more along the lines of unfit. She's not mentally ready to be the mother of any little person. Why? Well, if you can brag on how expensive your shoes are but can't afford proper child care so that you can work & play, there is a problem. If you don't truly see anything wrong with leaving a child alone for several days to fend for himself, there is a problem. If you are 26 years old but have the mental capacity of a 17 year old to the point where people treat you as if you're 17, there is a problem. If men are ever a priority over your child, that is a problem. If Draya wasn't Draya, and wasn't getting "picked on" during basketball wives, she wouldn't get a pass. If she were a man who left his son in the house for days to go creeping with some chicks and sell dope, the world would look at him like a monster. Same thing applies, these actions make you unfit to be a parent.

 

Let's go back to women who put men above their children. These women are unfit. I'd even go as far as calling them deadbeats. If you have to put anything over your child, you don't deserve a child. The problem with these types of women is that they don't see what they're doing as wrong. They love their children but they don't see the reality that they are indeed putting men over them. Case in point, we posted on Kate Gossellin a few weeks ago. She was filmed getting extremely and unnecessarily angry at her young children because her boyfriend reserved a slice of pizza and they almost ate it. She got even more angry when one of the children touched the pizza with their hands to give it to him. This is something I'll never understand. You birthed this children out of your vagina and now you're acting like their hands are disgusting, all because your "boo" wants a slice of pizza? He's grown, he can buy a whole box of pizza. I'm a firm believer that if any man wants to date me, he's got to know that my child comes first and if my child is hungry, he eats first.

 

Then you have ratchet women who weren't sh-t to begin with. I've seen women who were pregnant who smoke weed, cigarettes, drank, did everything a person who cared about their child should never do. Then when the baby came out with developmental issues, they acted surprised. These are the women who should go to jail for child endangerment. A child is trusting you with their life, at no choice of their own and you can't put down the ciggs for 9 months? You mean you HAVE to smoke weed? You HAVE to drink? These things can't wait until the baby doesn't need you as a source of food and shelter? These women are dead beats.

 

So ladies, before you bash the men who walk away from their children, remember their are women who stick around their children who are doing their children a disservice. There are more women who defend them and even more women who condone or make excuses for it. 

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Comment by blackfujones on October 7, 2011 at 11:01am
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And this is why one of my goals this yr is to start a group for young men who have just had children to help them steer clear of all the b.s I went through.  I've had my daughter since we left her mom back in 2002 and shes been less of a mother.  However, the state of IL made me jump through hoops to get sole custody of my child. Whereas all she had to do was to push her out her cooch and it made her fit..Only to see how effed up and bogus she was in the end.
Comment by blackfujones on October 7, 2011 at 11:05am
When I finally got custody of my daughter I found out so much s***..she'd been collecting my daughters disability since she was born (my daughter has hydrocephallus and ADHD)..found out after i got custody that she'd collected over 120 grand and never once bought diapers/milk or anything
Comment by Baller Alert on October 7, 2011 at 11:15am
It's a lot of mothers that put men before their children...they even go as far as killing their kids over a man. Crazy...
Comment by Eye Sum on October 7, 2011 at 11:23am
Please lay off of Draya.  she made a mistake and was arrested for it.  I'm sure she has learned her lesson.  That doesn't make her unfit. Continuously making the mistake would. Leave her alone.  You are starting to sound jealous.
Comment by Eleven8 on October 7, 2011 at 11:25am

Yes, i'm jealous. Draya is doing something spectacular (whatever that is)...not to mention, she's still doing the same, still not with her son, so still hasn't learned from it. Atleast I called her unfit, not deadbeat or worthless...

 

Anywho, I've heard of women selling their children for drugs. Those women are worthless.

Comment by Eleven8 on October 7, 2011 at 11:25am
oh and me saying i'm jealous, obvious sarcasm...in case u didn't catch that.
Comment by blackfujones on October 7, 2011 at 11:29am

@eye sum

 

im sorry but if me as a father did some of the s*** that women get away with as deadbeats, you'd call me all sorts of names before sunday came...so miss me with that 1

Comment by blackfujones on October 7, 2011 at 11:30am
I often had a problem with my daughters moms friends that would still condone what she did.  Like if it was me I'd be the worst NEGRO on the face of this earth...I just dont see how females get a pass
Comment by Sheli on October 7, 2011 at 11:30am

Yeah, I know some deadbeat mothers. Chick I use to hang with use to go to the club, drink & smoke weed all through her pregnancy. She'll drop that lil' girl off over anyone's house, without a second thought. A lot of these deadbeat women have babies to keep the man, then when he leaves they don't want anything to do with the child.

 

There is this hairdresser back home her babydaddy went to jail for selling drugs, while he was locked up she gave their son up for adoption. He couldn't do s*** about it--he never signed the birth certificate & he was incarcerated--she said he new "fiance" didn't want kids. She didn't even consider giving the child to his parents--told them she didn't know who the father was. He damn near killed her & the dude when he got out & got sent right back for it.

Comment by Baller Alert on October 7, 2011 at 11:32am
@eye_sum She also used Kate as an example. And maybe Draya knows she is unfit because her child is with her mother. Even though she is passing on the responsibility to her mom I commend her for not leaving her child alone for days. At least someone is caring for him properly.

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