Lying About Your Sexual Partners, Is It Cool?

 

I recently read an article on the net about Beyonce claiming that she's only had one boyfriend other than Jay Z and that Jay Z was her first. Now, by first I was hoping she meant her first marriage. Unfortunately, she meant her first sexual partner. Now I'm by no means the hall monitor of Bey's womb so I don't know who has or has not been in and out of there, but I did give her a swift side-eye.

 

I started to realize that when it comes to sex, you can never be too sure about a person's body count. Men tend to over-exaggerate while women tend to give or take a few. But what's the purpose? I'm not saying that you have to tell everyone who has been in and out of your bedroom, but if you're going to speak on it why don't you speak the truth? For some reason (if this article about Beyonce is real) Bey felt a need to speak on her sex life. Not saying it would be necessary for her to say "Yeah, I slept with the entire football team at 13" but why say "Jay Z took my virginity" if that could possibly not be true. Once again, I'm not saying that this is impossible, but let's be honest, it's not as likely as Beyonce would like to have us think.

 

So why do we as women feel the need to lie about sexual partners? When posed with the question why do so many of us choose to cut our number in half? I'm a firm believer in standing by your actions, whether good or bad. Unfortunately society is so backwards and full of double standards that it's somehow okay for men to have multiple sexual partners, but the minute a woman has slept with over one person in her life she's deemed a slut. So according to society, men can sleep with multiple women and be praised and when a women sleeps with any man other than the one she's destined to marry, she's damaged goods. Interesting.

 

So if a guy asks you how many guys you've slept with, what do you do? Do you keep it real and lay your ho s*** on the table or do you keep it cute and keep the numbers low? Personally, I keep it real. You want to know my number, I'll give it to you. The truth will either disgust or relieve you. Don't wanna know? Don't ask! 

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Comment by livelife25 on January 24, 2011 at 9:21am
First of all, I doubt Beyonce ever said anything on this topic, because we all know how private she is.  I think your "number" is no one's business, especially once you are disease free and have the papers to prove it. That discussion should never come up at all, whether it's a female asking a male or vice versa or even among when talking to your friends. 
Comment by Golden Child on January 24, 2011 at 10:28am

 Well honestly my semi ex-boyfriend asked me that and I told him as long I don't have anything it' s really none of your business how many people I've been with!

Comment by LostInTheDMV on January 24, 2011 at 11:11am
I agree. And most people gonna lie about it anyways, so why even bring that up. I rather know that you are clean and disease free and can prove it.
Comment by University of Smitty on January 24, 2011 at 11:43am

I have a relatively low number so I have no problem telling it.   However, if my number was UP THERE......I'd lie or use the 'none of your business' line ....lol  (no offense)

Comment by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on January 24, 2011 at 12:00pm
It is none of his dang bidness. The only thing I am interested in when it comes to men is if he have had any sexual experiences with other men. That is my only sex question because we are both going for STD/STI tests before we wear out the sheets. If he wants to know if I've ever been with a chick then he can ask and will recieve an answer. But how many men have I been with? Ninja, please grow up and move on to the next question. Any answer over 1 and you are a slut and he will attempt to treat you as such. Whether or not you allow him to depends on whether or not you believe you are a slut.
Comment by Ordinary G on January 24, 2011 at 12:33pm

it matters to men and thats why women lie point blank period.in reality most females will never tell u, or if they do more then likely their goin to lie.at the end of the day tho no man wants to be wifin a female that has been totally run thru no matter how much women say its a double standard(which it isnt). Dont get me wrong I dont believe women shouldnt enjoy sex, or have only one or two parnters, but women that are runnin around f***** a whole bunch of dudes are seen as not bein selective, and will instead let damn near anyone hit, idc what anyone says thats just not a good look.

Comment by miss cali on January 24, 2011 at 4:40pm
it really is no ones business... knowing someone's number does no good to a relationship. i say as long as the person is disease free, and their sexual past won't affect our future, it doesnt matter.
Comment by Sissy on January 24, 2011 at 6:08pm
@Ordinary G is speaking the gospel
Comment by Ms. KissyFace on January 24, 2011 at 6:22pm

Thats a rude question to ask someone. It's also a jedi mind trick. You will not win if you answer that question even if you are virgin. It lets the man asking know that he can step over certain boundaries. While having way too many sexual partners is not a good sign and that goes for men too that doesnt give the person you are dating the right to mind f*ck you.

Comment by ATown SouthernGal on January 24, 2011 at 6:42pm
my answer depends on who is asking

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