Seriously, When Did Men Become So Useless?

Daily, women are being told that we are not like our mothers and grandmothers. Men complain that the black woman of today is not submissive enough. She doesn't cook enough, nor does she clean. Worst of all, she doesn't submit to sex at the whim of her man.

Well Men of America, have you ever stopped to think that maybe it's you and not me? While we're on the subject on how bad the modern woman is, can we talk about the new age man? Do you remember the days where if something was broken in your house your Dad would break out his tool box and fix it. What happened to that man? The new age man can't fix anything. You know how I know? I've asked. Do these new age men even own a tool box? How can you complain about a woman's lack of enthusiasm in regards to cooking when you can't even use a hammer. If you can't even fix small things around the house, you're nothing more than an added child to our existing family. Frankly, if I didn't personally squeeze you out of my womb, I don't need you as a child.

Of course, I could spend some money and hire someone to come fix whatever is broken but honestly I shouldn't have to. My mother never had to spend money on a repair man so why should I. That's one of the simple duties that a man has. We need him to protect us, provide for us and to fix some sh-t when it breaks. If you can't do those three simple things, what purpose do you truly serve?

Some may say I'm being a bit extreme but look at it my way -- if we continue to let men get away with not being men, we're encouraging their useless behavior. Everyday men tell us what we're doing wrong but we hardly ever tell them what their faults are. It's because we accept their behavior. We've already accepted that chivalry is dead  and that men refuse to be faithful. One thing I won't accept is having to call a handyman to replace a light bulb. What if we are driving down the road and a tire blows out. Do I have to call AAA to change my flat tire or should the man in my life be able to save the day? There are way too many how to videos on Youtube for men to not know how to do simple things. These days the new age man is more versed on the different types of Jordans than handy work, mowing the lawn or taking out the trash. God help me as I go put together my furniture.

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Comment by ReadytoSettleDown on August 7, 2012 at 11:08am

too many absent fathers. regardless if it's from dads working or dads just not being there at all, little boys are growing up w/o someone teaching them how to use tools and put together furniture. i'm a single mom of a 6 year old little boy and NOT AT ALL BY CHOICE. but ya girl has got tools, baseball bats and gloves, soccer balls and a lawn tools. it's a job trying to teach him, especially when i love my nails!!! tuff world...

Comment by ReadytoSettleDown on August 7, 2012 at 11:10am

so...these little boys who grew up being spoiled by their mothers grow up to be spoiled men.

Comment by Eleven8 on August 7, 2012 at 11:12am

@ReadytoSettleDown someone else made the absent fathers argument too. My only thing is there are always uncles, grandpas etc too. I find most men don't WANT to learn. They care more about fashion than getting down and dirty. You can Google just about anything, read a manual or something! How do these men just not want to be men? Then got the nerve to get mad when they can't get a home cooked meal. S***, you aint deserve it!

Comment by Love is a Losing Game on August 7, 2012 at 11:34am

I'm with you Eleven. Men employing excuses is contradictory to being a man. Even if they don't know or have never seen, there is a way to make it happen IF YOU ARE A MAN. Nothing stops him from stepping up or figuring out what needs to be done but himself, and women need to realize that. It;s not you that is at fault. It's not something you did wrong. It is simply his desire to not be a man that is the reason for the issue.  I agree that some women pacify boys and they don't learn responsibility from he "Assisting" him through his opportunities to be and act responsible, but as a boy matures, his innate man qualities come out and he has to know that he needs to make changes, if he is to really mature into a man. Hell, he know how to whip is dyc out, demand a plate be made for him, EXPECT the big piece of chicken, but this fool cant figure out when to take the garbage out? When to get the oil changed? Fill the car with gas? Change a tire?? Nah, this fool gots excuses and as long as you are fine with changing tires and eating the lil piece of chicken, I say keep letting him think that just because he doesn't know something is reason enough to not learn something, and keep calling him a man. 

Comment by Ordinary G on August 7, 2012 at 12:21pm

first...let me say women r always complaining that men arent like ur fathers or the older generation so im not sure bout that argument. Secondly not every man is gonna be a handy man...my father did alot of things but fixing everything wasnt one, so ur right i might have a few tools but i dont have a tool box, im not gonna change ur tire,and im not gonna fix a leaking pipe....shrug. that doesnt mean im not a man...just that im not fixing everything its just not what i do. However there r plenty of dudes who do, hell two of my boys grew up the total opposite, they were always havin to fix things, so i mean it is what it is...date who u want, dont get bitter cause some dude u date doesnt fix things..u shoulda got someone who did...idk these oh u dont do this they dont do that convos r counterproductive .....man get in where u fit in

Comment by Eleven8 on August 7, 2012 at 12:23pm

You don't change a tire? But I can? And you don't see a problem with that? Ok.

Comment by Ordinary G on August 7, 2012 at 12:37pm

@Eleven 

my father was an extremely good cook so he taught me how to cook..so imma ask the same question u asked me..i can more then likely cook better then u can, do u see a problem with that?  ..plus i got AAA number...ill be ok ha!

Comment by Siren on August 7, 2012 at 12:43pm

As far as a males manhood being determined by his ability to fix things... I don't agree. My fathers second career he remodeled homes I was spoiled and expected men to do everything my Dad could do. Our society doesn't promote that but I have dated guys who knew nothing about being handy etc but they would hire someone for me. Look it up online or buy a book and give it a try. I would rather a ninja not know how to fix some ish and willing to hire & pay some to do it right and treated me well than a ninja that thinks he is god's gift and you owe him something cause he did something. Because I find that some dudes that have a skill like a bargaining chip for p**** no thanks boo!

Comment by Tone © on August 7, 2012 at 12:53pm
You can't want old school rules when it benefits you. Then b**** about men wanting thing same from you
Comment by Eleven8 on August 7, 2012 at 1:11pm

Hey Tone, pull your head out of your ass and re-read. Clearly that was the point this whole post is making. Men want an old school woman, but can't be an old school man. Not for lack of knowledge, but lack of trying. S***, I swear if you didn't skim through things you would make a lot of sense.

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