Comment by Haute Shid on November 25, 2011 at 2:03pm

This was SO on point. It IS a tough balance to find, but I say don't let go of your schedule and life so quick (let me rephrase that, EVER) as soon as you find someone you're interested in and want to pursue beyond the physical. For instance, me and my "guy" (who I'm doing the suttle pursuit with) were handling some business that he was helping me with, and in the middle of it I turned to face him and (he is like 6'7 300 lbs., I'm 5'4 125-135 *girls know what I'm talking bout lol*) just caught me off guard with his physique and build he doesn't "look" 300 lbs. And it was SO sexy and manly! Lol Anyway, I instantly gave him a severe once over, but immediately snapped out of it to finish what we were doing, I just got right back to business. It was very pure and unintentional yet VERY apparent what I was thinking. Body language really is a language that is readable. I could say more but I hate over wording because I have quite the imagination. ;-)

Comment by blackfujones on November 26, 2011 at 4:59am

Majority of men deal with things in black and white....there are no gray areas.

Comment by Saiuda Smalls on November 27, 2011 at 12:37pm

I am a very upfront woman, and I noticed that men don't really appreciate that too much! I have never been one to be thirsty, but I don't mind letting a man know from the gate what it is about him that  find interesting. I have had plenty of men tell me that it was intimidating, and that they'd rather "chase" the woman. They say that women are confusing, but so are dudes :-/ 

Comment by LawGurl-Dax on November 28, 2011 at 11:15am

Most men who want women to be up front with them are the very one's who AREN'T being up front with her...  he needs to know how far she's invested and or will invest herself to see just how much  schit he will be able to get away with.

The moment the women puts him on the "I will let you know if I & when I feel like telling you" it is the moment he bounces because he can't stand a woman treating him how he treats women or he gets all emotional because he met his match and she's everything he wanted but she's just in it for whatever is clever...

 

If you don't know KNOW the person... save the thirst for an ice cold beverage... people only let you know what they want you to know, beauty if only skin deep and there are drugs that masks a person's sexually communicable disease to make it look as though they're healthy...

 

Proper judgement is to be used at all times so you won't regret any moves that you made!

Comment by Sasha Dolla on November 29, 2011 at 10:52am

Alot of these comments are on point. USE PROPER JUDGEMENT, and NEVER STOP YOUR SCHEDULE. If you think that he is playing games, and may not be up for what you are looking for, chances are that he is. I agree that some guys want it spelled out in black and white because they want to play games, while others really would like to know how you feel so that they can move forward with you, you just have to have the sense to be able to tell who is who. Its very well possible to show your interest without being thirsty, you just have to know what you are doing ;)

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