So You're Dating a Baller...What's Next?


Attention ladies, please read the following questions carefully.

1. Are you’re a bad chick that has no problem landing a baller but it seems to never go past the dating stage?

2. Do ballers flock to you rather easily but don’t want anything serious?

3. Do you date, kick it, may or may not be intimate with these men but never had a real relationship. (I was gonna say “committed relationship” but mostly all of them cheat!)

If you answered yes to the aforementioned questions, then this message is for you! Please read on.

There are those who wonder how they can to move to the next step. They ask themselves, “What must be done to get to the next level?” Well, there are several reasons why you haven’t made it to “girlfriend status”.

1. You may be a jumpoff. Or a hoe. I don’t know you but you know if you got hoe tendencies. If that’s you, then understand that a lot of men don’t wanna turn a hoe into a housewife. I mean, if you’ve been with more dudes in one year than you have fingers, then you have hoe tendencies. (Btw, if you’re f****** all them dudes, please be getting something out of the deal. Don’t be a broke hoe. They annoy me. I figured that if you’re gonna be a hoe anyways, be a rich hoe! And at least get something out the deal. I know I always say that. But it’s because I’m dead ass serious!) Plus, men talk as much as women. If you’re dating an athlete, trust that there is an 80% chance that your name has been tossed around the locker room. My first baller said and I quote, “I’m going to the locker room tomorrow and I’m gonna ask my teammates if they know you. I need to know if you’re a hoe. Cause 80% of the women who date athletes are hoes.” Now, I’m sure this number of “80%” is not statistically proven. (Side Note: Would hoes really volunteer for a study!?!? LOL.) But I’m sure there is some level of truth to what he says. So, if you’re a jumpoff or hoe, then maybe that is why you haven’t made it to “girlfriend” status. Now, don’t get me wrong. Will they f*** you? Yes! But will they make you their girl? Maybe/maybe not.

2. He’s not ready. Just because you date a baller and yall kick it, doesn’t mean that he’s ready to settle down with you. Many of them enjoy the lifestyle of being single and being a playboy. Even though some won’t admit it, there are plenty of ballers who like the groupies, hoes, and many women that they can f*** on demand. It boosts their ego. So, having a girlfriend will cramp their operation. Moreover, there are a few that would actually like to be faithful to their woman. So if they are not ready for that kind of official relationship because they know they would cheat, they would rather not have a girlfriend at all in order to prevent her feelings from getting hurt. (Btw, the aforementioned is a rare scenario. LOL.) Plus, many of them are very cautious of groupies and golddiggers. So, it’s most likely gonna take a while for him to trust you. My Rule: If you didn’t meet him before the money, it gonna be hard for him to fall for you after the money.

3. Destiny. Ballers are no different from “regulars”. You date regular men and if you don’t make it to the next level, you say f*** it. You don’t go “outta your way” to find out how to take it to the next level. So, don’t do it with “ballers”. Ladies, it’s not that serious! If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. All you need is a little patience, time, luck, and destiny. And if you’re meant to be a baller’s girlfriend (preferably a wife), then you will be. Don’t fret tho. “Regulars” need love too!! There are plenty of them to choose from.

So to answer the question, “What must be done to get to the next level?”, I say…do nothing that you wouldn’t normally do…and just do you. If yall are compatible, enjoy each other company, and both are looking for relationships, then your chances of getting to the next level are quite high. Don’t go out of your way. Do you and let him do him. You don’t have to do magic tricks (…step away from the kegel balls!). Don’t put on a façade. You won’t be able to maintain it for long anyways. Just be who you are. He gotta love you for you anyways. There is no magic or love potion that can make a man fall for you. It’s all about you. And if you got what he’s looking for at that moment (and he’s ready for it), then he’s more than likely gonna snatch you up!

Shout out to M.I.S!

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Comment by desiree on November 28, 2009 at 11:21pm
good info but im not a groupie, hoe, or looking for a baller...i have found love with a 'regular' guy lol
Comment by alluringeyes on November 28, 2009 at 11:34pm
Great post OG! I especially love the last paragraph. That's not just when you're trying to get to the next level with a baller, but with any men. If you are reaching just to get him to be exclusive to you, you are failing.
Comment by Incognito on November 29, 2009 at 1:29am
This was an interesting read.
Comment by alluringeyes on November 29, 2009 at 2:34pm
@OG I was going to ask you where was your disclaimer lol.
Comment by Busy Signal aka $picey on November 29, 2009 at 4:20pm
hahaha, when I saw this yesterday I didn't see the disclaimer, OG.....maaaaaaaaaaan, LOL
Comment by alluringeyes on November 29, 2009 at 6:35pm
@OG I agree with you. LOL @ your P.S. If you're gonna pray for that for Christmas, pray long and hard because there are a lot of people who need it. In fact, I'll say a prayer with you.
Comment by Moving In Silence on November 29, 2009 at 7:14pm
Ok damn so just because I asked a question now I don't have any self respect. 1st thanks OG for the blog. But the thing is when OG was writing the other blogs I asked her why she thought I kept getting stuck in the friend state with men. So she wrote this. I wasn't saying I'm going to sleep my way to the top.
And I'm not going to take these comments personally because a. there are a lot of women with the same question (of which have a lot of self worth and know it and aren't trying to do whatever it takes to get/keep a man) (then there are those who will do any and everything to get whatever) and b. baller alert has an obundience of hoes, scandelous and regular women peeking in on the daily bases looking up where the ballers are and how to get one. If it happens to you for a while you will have to stop and ask why but if this doesnt apply to you great move on. Like the post said I don't have a problem attracting one I just wanted to know some possiblities on why they don't commit to a relationship with me. I doubt I could be labaled a hoe I haven't had sex in almost a year and been with less than 10. But maybe I'm doing something that would suggest that I am idk. Anyway thanks OG. ((((hugs))))
Comment by OfficialGroupie on November 29, 2009 at 9:05pm
@moving. thanks sweetie. ((((hugs))). Let me clearly say that i don't think you have self-esteem problems or don't have any self-respect. it was a good question. girl, don't trip. i've been asked this before. my homegirl asked me this. but she falls in the first category. i'm not saying you're a hoe. i just gave reasons why.

when i wrote my previous comments, i was just saying that i was giving my advice based on the situation. don't take it outta context. i wasn't talking bout you:) i was just speaking in general. i hate the politically correct s***. i like to keep it 100. sorry! some broads deal with whatever and some don't. btw, this s*** just don't apply to ballers. it applies to regular men as well.
Comment by AllyNWonderland on March 19, 2014 at 3:41pm
The only thing is, ballers wife hoes ALL THE TIME!!
Comment by Hello Kitty on March 19, 2014 at 5:49pm

Let's not forget the ladies that meet ballers 24/7 but don't want a cheater or someone who can't commit.  I have men approach me all the time, I'm definitely not a hoe - but I never take them very seriously, or want to have sex without a condom.  Dummy, I could have had a baby with a $60 MM man but I was like - HELL NO put that condom on NOW!  Even after 6-12 months, condoms always.  I can't be the only one who feels like this.

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