For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
So...where do I start? I guess anywhere would be fine at this point. So I'll start off by saying that this blog is true to life (like the rest of my blog). It circles around a conversation I had with eight guys. Seven of them married and the eighth set to be in 2013.
I simply asked them this: Why did you get married? Besides the blank looks, discomfort in their body language, and the sweat trickling down the side of their forehead, as if I were an undercover secret agent for Women, I could tell that they were anxious to answer.
Now let me say this, I wasn't shocked or moved by their answers (cus I'm a Man and I know why Most Men get Married) I was more so moved by the answer that was not said...."Because I love her!" Wait, let me take that back. Woman, all of the Men...well most of them said they loved their wives at some point during the conversation, but their initial response went a little something like this.....
Me: So, quick question, quick answer...Why did you get married?
Guy#1: Because I was getting tired of hearing her mouth. The constant threats of leaving me and finding someone else made me say “Fuck it.” It's not even worth to start all over. So I'll give her what she wants, if it would insure my sanity.
Guy#2: Her family was on me, plus she was pregnant and they didn't know. I found the perfect mother to my soon to be newborn. That’s all a guy really wants. Plus I've been feeling guilty lately.
Guy #3: It was just that time. I've been with her for over 10 years. What else is there to do.
Guy #4: She's a good girl and perfect mother to my 2 boys.
Guy #5: Man, I don't know why I married her. Marriage is not for me! Honestly, I felt like I owed her for all of my indiscretions.
(All the men shook their heads in agreement to this, as if they too were working off of a guilty conscience)
Guy #6: I didn't want someone else to take her from me. That's one thing that kept hunting me. Having her leave me for another man.
(When I ask him if it’s more so about her leaving you or another man taking her from you, his reply was this)
Carl, my wife cooks, she cleans, and her sex is the bomb. There's no way in hell I’m gonna let that go. Trust me, I know what’s out there. And its nothing like her. I even told my side thing to step her game up or I’m out.
Guy #7 had no real answer. He just kept saying "I don't know man. I just did".
And guy #8 had the look of death on his face being that he was set to be married in 2013.
I then asked the men if love played a part in their decision to marry their women, and really started to go in, on what a relationship and a strong, true marriage consists of. It was like the male ego trip started to flourish and fill the room.
No one wanted to answer 1st, but as soon as one of the guys made a "I love my wife" statement, they all jumped up like their woman was standing directly over them with the same pressure they felt they were under to marry these women. All you heard was "Yeah Yeah, hell Yeah, I love my wife. She's the best wife a man could ever have."
Right!!! I mean I don't doubt the greatness each and everyone of their wives possess, but if their last second ranting and raving were true, why not say it faster than the next man???
Why not have that be the reason why they got married in the first place? Speak up guys...Speak Up? Lol (Saying all this in my head of course. Come on ladies, I’m in a room filled with ego driven, cheating men) I didn't want them to run back into their rat h***...I mean Man h***!
So although this is just a very small survey on men and why they get/got married, ladies maybe you should ask your man....Why did you get married...to me, or want to marry me. Before you are 10 years in, and your man is saying "Damn, Why did I get Married."
Carl A Roberts
Author of: Good Men Do cheat