WHY DO MEN CHEAT?....FROM A BALLER'S POINT OF VIEW - PART 1
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Since the first blog by a baller got your ladies so riled up...I have three wonderful ballers that are going to write blogs for us. They think the majority of us are clueless and want to lend a helping hand. LOL
Check out one ballers opinion on why men cheat:
Why do men cheat...there's no 1 answer why we cheat. It's different for every relationship. But somethings are constant, he cheated cause either A.he wasn't happy or B. You made him.
Now before I go into this subject please remember something I AM A MAN. I have cheated on women myself as well as gathered info from my male friends who have cheated so the information I'm telling you about men is correct!!!!!!! Doesn't matter what your hairdresser or your girlfriends told you,,,they're wrong so save the "he don't know what he talking bout comments" and pay attention it might save your relationship.
"He aint happy"
Contrary to popular belief that all men are dogs and he cheated just because is the fact that he's not happy....see men are like dogs if you feed him, house him, take him for walks, etc when he goes off the leash you don't have to worry cause he's going to come right back.
BUT!!!!!! When u keep him chained up,feed him table scraps, etc he's out and he might not come back
Let me explain, regardless of how "fair it is" whatever you did to get him you gotta keep doing to keep him. If yall used to make love 5 times a day when you were early on in the realtionship anything under 4 will cause him to get bored and stray. If you used to come to bed in that sexy little lingerie you better keep it up.
What happen 98% of the time is you guys don't realize that you push your man away. I remember watching Sex and the City the Movie and for most of the movie it was all Big's fault that he and Carrie didn't get married (in her opinion), but the more their wedding became anout Carrie and her friends and less about Carrie and Big he started throwing signs of his unhappiness and well you see what happened. A lot of women fall under that category of the "Fake Victim".
You get so lazy in bed acting like your doing your man a "favor" by giving him head, you come home and don't do shit but bitch and moan about work and your girlfriends problems, you don't want him having any guy time without you, you don't shut the fuck up during monday night football, you include yourself in HIS plans all of this makes him unhappy.
So some of you are saying " Well why doesn't he just talk to me" the truth is that he has. Not in the ways you want but he's telling you. Does he leave to work earlier than he used to or comes home a few hours after he used to all the time, does he not want sex when you offer it, is he always at his mom's or on the phone with his sister??? If you answered yes your man aint happy and it's your fault. He's never going to sit you down and tell you that he's not happy. Men don't work like that never have and no matter how hard you try he never will. All you can do is first pay attention to him and then if you do find him cheating have a serious look at yourself. Not that fake listening to your girlfriends "he don't deserve you he aint shit" speech really look and see.
PART 2 COMING SOON
Tags: cheating, men, relationships
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Comment by Charlie/Daddy's Girl on August 21, 2009 at 4:10pm -
I believe it...I definitely agree with it...
I do have a better understanding of how men "talk"...didn't know that one...
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Comment by XIKhai on August 21, 2009 at 4:15pm - Seems simple enough...men aren't as complex as some women make them. and uh i'mma need ANY dude I'm with to shut the f up during sunday, sunday night & monday night football as well. lmao!
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Comment by David Matthew Romas on August 21, 2009 at 4:18pm - Great Blog.
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Comment by KJ on August 21, 2009 at 4:21pm - I agree. I've cheated before because a) there wasn't as much or good sex as before or b) he treated me badly/disrespectful
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Comment by Denise on August 21, 2009 at 4:40pm - Hands down the best line, "If you answered yes your man aint happy and it's your fault."....don't agree with it, but it was funny.....and insightful @ times
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Comment by oo la la on August 21, 2009 at 4:40pm - SMH I'm bad at guessing people but I think I know who this is (just me guessing b/c I think its the same dude from yesterday) and if it's him he already told me why I'm single, a personal consultation if you will lmao. Whether it's him or not, I stand by what I said yesterday. Men have TOO MANY demands in the 2009. These millinneum men are not working for me. Reason #239029390234920390230 I have no interest in a baller. They got more demands than the rest of them.
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Comment by livelife25 on August 21, 2009 at 4:51pm - i find it interesting that this baller thinks majority of us are clueless based on the comments written on discussion boards over the past few days. well so far Mr. Baller, all of your posts have something to do with women not being "enough" of something or "too much" of something else, so therefore you are inevitably going to get the majority female members on this site on the defensive immediately (as you might do, blame it on the emotional nature of females). while your posts may be truth and blunt, it comes across as "women ain't worth the time...period." i would LOVE for you to continue blogging on here, but in the future, i would appreciate seeing some more balanced posts from you about things that you DO like about women or would like from women without being disparaging, because one thing i have learned about BA from my short time on here is that the forums do have a wide range of topics and viewpoints of how women see men (i.e. sometimes positive, sometimes negative).
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Comment by Babydoll on August 21, 2009 at 4:54pm -
@ charlie....TD Jakes broke down how men "talk" in HeMotions. It was meant for men, but that shit changed my life.
But yea, men are not verbal so you have to watch for the signs. I am like a ninja when it comes to this shit now lol
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Comment by Sheli on August 21, 2009 at 4:58pm -
I surprisingly somewhat agree with this especially "... whatever you did to get him you gotta keep doing to keep him..." which is why I don't do shit that I know I'm not going to want to keep up with to keep my dude... I don't cook (take your ass to FF strip), I wear grandma draws to bed (nothing sexy), he gets the coochie like I get oil changes (evey 3-4 months), and I wear my scarf to bed every night (you ain't messing up my hair). That way 3 years down the road he can't say, "Sheli you weren't like this when we met..." Look at the pics ninja yes I was....Honestly that USE to work for me up until about two years ago...so now I gotta revamp it a bit, guess I can start taking the scarf off. LOL
I like the way he presented this post today or maybe I'm more calm & open today the "TRUTH" post helped me release some energy.
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Comment by JustMe on August 21, 2009 at 5:11pm - i like this one too...
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