Ballerific Relationships - Why Most Black Women Will Date A Drug Dealer Over An Atheist


God is a focal point in the Black community. Spirituality, belief and faith are all interconnected and this is due to a long history between religion and Blacks that goes back further than slavery. Although slavery was definitely one of the American institutions that helped to forge and solidify the strong relationships between loving God and being Black. Research has shown that even African Tribes had some form of spiritual belief system that they followed. Spirituality is such a essential experience in a Black person’s life that even the discussion of those in society who chose to follow a creed of Atheism is a subject of disgust and ridicule. Both Black men and women are serious about Jesus.

However, in my opinion I would say that history has proven that Black women are usually the spiritual leaders in the homes. They are the ones who make sure everyone not only attends church but is active in church and forges a relationship with God from the time they are kids until adulthood. Statistics have also shown that in most Christian churches the women outnumber the men greatly. Therefore it makes complete sense that when a Black woman is asked what are the characteristics she would like in a mate? She unquestionably includes “God- fearing” as number one on her list. Never mind if Pookie sells a little crack here and there to support his Jordan and big car rim habit. Having said that, how many of you would ever date an atheist?

Now keep in mind that I am not asking you would you become an atheist, I am asking you would you be open to dating or even marrying an atheist? Many women would say no and claim that an atheist man would undoubtedly be immoral, a cheater, abuser, there would be no connection between him and her and so on. Playing Devil’s advocate here, I want you to consider the fact that men of all races, religious backgrounds cheat. There is no guarantee that states that just because a man is a Christian and loves the Lord that he won’t love the ladies and he will never cheat on you and will always love and treat you well. Take a look at Bishop Eddie Long as an example. He is living proof that Religious people can also be highly immoral as well so being religious is not a guarantee either. Christians also get divorces when their marriage dissolves.

So basically, there is no absolute way to know for a fact that because you are dating a man that says he is a Christian or perhaps exhibits traits of one, that your relationship will indeed stand the test of time. On that note, my questions to you again is: Would you date an atheist? Would you marry one? What if he was good to you and he loved you dearly? What if he never required you to stop believing in the Lord? What if he respected your relationship with God?

There are women who would date a cheater, a criminal, an abuser, a drug dealer, a lazy guy with a bunch of damn kids by different women, or even a murderer rather than a straight laced, moral, hard working atheist who respected others, respected women, loved her dirty panties (figuratively) and was law abiding. You know I’m right too. But do you see the hypocrisy in it? Why? We all know of at least one Preacher, Reverend etc who was all about the Lord on Sundays and all about the ladies, outside of his wife the rest of the week. We also all know of a Preacher or Reverend who either did illegal or immoral activities or even stole from his own loyal church congregation. In the end, money was his God.

God has nothing to do with his moral obligations. Religion also does not guarantee one's moral compass. On another hand, some women would not want to date an atheist because they assume that because their beliefs are so drastically different from the guy’s, he would mock them. Perhaps he would poke fun at her spirituality or at her praying. But what if he respected and accepted your relationship with God? Would that make you accept his beliefs more? There also might be the fear that because he is an atheist, that automatically makes him immoral, debauched, evil, etc.. But, religion of any sort does not assure that a person will have a set of morals and will chose to abide by them. It is a personal decision as to whether you will “do the right thing” in this world as my mother puts it. Even I am not sure of how I feel about this one. Ladies, would you date an atheist man? If not, what are your reasons for not?

 

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Comment by Tone on January 14, 2012 at 1:30pm

I am sorry but his post is dumb as hell.

Comment by mese on January 14, 2012 at 4:31pm
^^^^^^ lol at tone.
Comment by Moving In Silence on January 14, 2012 at 9:33pm

I didn't read all this. But I agree with Tone. I'd date an athetist before I would a drug dealer.

Comment by ♥ Gurl Naaaw♥ on January 14, 2012 at 10:18pm

What! Is these our choices in men now? If so,,, I'm gonna marry my mama.

Comment by Busy Signal aka $picey on January 14, 2012 at 10:55pm

lol @ Gurl naw, is these our choices in men now. The pool is shrinking

Comment by Mama Dragon Slayer Puss on January 15, 2012 at 2:04am
Sorry LJ but I think this post is dumb as hell too. From what I am learning, there is a difference in being spiritual and religious. Most spiritual people don't believe in jesus or muhammad or any diety but they believe in God and I think that is the difference. Most athiests believe in "the universe" which is another form of God, imo, just not specific like in Jesus or Muhammad or any other diety. And to choose a murderer over an athiest? Lol I think ur reasoning or logic is flawed on this one. U been on point tho
Comment by ♥ Gurl Naaaw♥ on January 15, 2012 at 2:06am

@OLD SPICE PINE NEEDLE....forreal this is ridiculous.

Comment by Dub_B on January 15, 2012 at 2:24pm

lol ya are a mess...i was on facebook a few months ago and someone asked the question would you date an atheist and the majority of people said no they wouldnt date an atheist. i would date one

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