Why Won't Black Women Submit To Their Man?



Ladies, why do you always have to prove how strong you are to your men? Why do you always have to make the man feel less than a man by the way you talk to him? Why can't there ever be a time where he asks you to do something and you do it with no hesitation or complaints?

These are some of the questions that run through my mind on a daily basis. Especially when I talk to my male friends about why they don't date black women.

About 95% of my male friends are black and about 80% of them don't date black women. When I asked them why they said black women are too loud, ghetto and don't know how to submit to their man...

I completely agree...

When watching my friend's relationships and watching some of my friends I can attest to all of what was said that day. If you would just sit down and listen to what your man needed and stopped trying to wear the pants all the time then you wouldn't be lonely come 'Cuffin Season'

I'm going to compile a list of suggestions and you can do as you please with the information.

1. SHUT UP!
Your man does not want to hear talking ALL the time. Some things are just best left unsaid.

2. STOP NAGGING!
The more you nit pick at him the farther away you push him.

3. SERVICE HIM
I mean this in the most respectful way...you need to get on your knees and do the deed. A well sucked man is a happy man.

Now I know this is a very short list but I can't give you everything. Some things you have to learn on your own.

I am not saying that you should take it ALL the way back to the 1940s but it never hurts to take it there sometimes.

This is coming from a woman of experience.

@MizzBozz88

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Tags: men, relationship, submit

Comment by ChellBellz on September 29, 2010 at 1:28pm
I like that old school balance, I know it sounds crazy, but i can be independent elsewhere like at work, sometimes there is nothing looking over and knowing you man is there to protect you. I can't get with the nagging because i dont like it either. Woman are so stuck on "im independent" when a man is there to be the alpha male, and protector. I don't have any kids, so i'm not trying to be some mans mother.

i agree with this article 1000000%
Comment by Siren on September 29, 2010 at 1:51pm
I also am in agreeance with this article... with the shut up part I would have to add that timing is everything when approaching certain topics...if your man pissed you off about something do not go calling him at work to argue....and don't always argue with the point of hurting him or emasculating him...be mature and learn to discuss your issues without going for his manhood. If you don't want to be verbally abused don't be verbally abusive! Also stop having this list of what you WON'T do for someone...if you want someone to give you all of what you want you have to be bringing more than a warm wet h*** to the table... Has to be abotu a mutual exchange beyond sex.
Comment by Bonita on September 29, 2010 at 1:53pm
I don't agree with this article..has it ever occured that if you don't give a woman a reason to nag she won't!! Personally i don't nag or talk too much but everyone has limits so once I reach mine IMO I know more men who are worst that chicks when it comes to not shutting up and nagging. This article is so one sided it is ridic.
Comment by luvsmoochez on September 29, 2010 at 1:58pm
This article is misguided. I get what you are saying but the presentation is lacking. For one, saying that "black women are too loud, ghetto and don't know how to submit to their man", shows me that perhaps you and your male friends need to deal with a better quaility of people. Maybe class is an issue and not so much about blackness. Also, realize that many women that go the "independent woman" route do so often times because they have never seen a real man be in charge and therefore to have financial success or otherwise they feel they have no options but to be independent. An older woman did advise me that it's best to play the middle. No man wants a woman that is too needy, but men also have to feel needed or they have no place in your life. Lastly, people need to learn what submission means and many people have a misconception. Understanding when to stand strong and when to stand down is something that every woman has to learn in life and especially with her man.
Comment by AllyNWonderland on September 29, 2010 at 2:01pm
I submit to my man at all times.... I grew up in a 2 parent household and my parents especiall my mom ALWAYS told me the man is the head of household...No matter his income, the MAN WEARS THE PANTS! When he comes home...dinner should be cooked....he should have the remote...unless otherwise noted...and in return my daddy treats my mother like a queen...she get what she wants when she wants it...
Comment by Chocolate Jalapeno on September 29, 2010 at 2:13pm
Miss Bozz...what inspired you to write this blog... just curious. A good friend of mines cried over this same topic this past weekend. Im in total agreement with you when it comes to submitting to a man.
Comment by BabyCakes on September 29, 2010 at 2:31pm
What kind of black women are they running to? Where are they meeting these women at b/c I know I'm not like that. I was raised in an old fashioned household and I respect a man and I think he is the head of the household BUT...there are a lot of men who expect that treatment without doing their part too. I cant submit to you if you're not worthy to lead so it goes both ways. If these men are constantly having the same problems with women why dont they look at themselves instead of blaming all black women? Either they are picking the same type of female or maybe they are not worthy to be submitted to. A man wears the pants and you shouldnt emasculate him but some men are disrespectful and think they should be free to do what they want and you should just not have a mouth....
Comment by Candy on September 29, 2010 at 2:44pm
Why can't men..black me realize that we are the queen of the castle and it if they make and keep us happy everything will be just fine :)
Comment by Busy Signal aka $picey on September 29, 2010 at 2:50pm
@Cuty4sure & @Candy, I agree with both of you.

To answer the question: when they put us on the pedestal like they do others, we're happy and will gladly return the favor. And most men should learn to communicate with their woman and not provoke them into doing #1 & #2 ..... #3 more men should return the favor.
Comment by CCD is Workin on a baller 4 she on September 29, 2010 at 4:56pm
Oh mercy! Not another black women this is what is wrong with you articles. Whatever!

I'm with Candy, Cuty4sure and $picey. I give as good as I get. When a man puts his best into me then I put my best into him. I don't nag, because if I have to ask my man more than once for something I have indicated is a need and he ignores me without explaining himself I'll be moving on. If I am putting more into a relationship than I am getting out of it, then it isn't a real relationship and it is time to move on. Nagging is not in my DNA make up.

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