For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
I was contacted by the young lady who recently told her cautionary tale of being flown out by a Baller and only used for sex. To keep a long story short she had been talking to Javale McGee of the Denver Nuggets for several months, was under the impression that they had a relationship but when he finally flew her out to meet him all he wanted to do was keep her cooped up and have sex. He didn't take her out, didn't spend time with her, didn't even buy her food.
For the longer version of the story via BSO here it is:
I know any time a woman says that she never has dated an athlete and she isn’t that type of woman it throws up all types of red flags. I am not going to say that.
I have had athletes trying to get with me since I was 18 years old and although I had never been intimate with on, I have dated rappers and high profile people in the past. I have been in World Star Hip Hop videos and some may consider me a Vixen, but all I ask is that you listen to my story, because it isn’t about exposing, it is about possibly helping someone in the future.
I developed a friendship with Denver Nuggets center Javale McGee. It started like I assume most friendships start between athletes and women these days via Twitter. This wasn’t unusual I have a lot of athletes DMing me and most of the time I just ignore them, but he persisted and eventually DMs turned into texts, texts turned into Skype sessions. I felt sort of sorry for him because people say he isn’t the brightest guy and would talk about how lack of basketball skills on the court. It may not hurt his feelings, but as my friend, I felt for him. I saw a more human side of him and honestly people have made fun of me in the past, so I understood what he was going through and we had that in common. He’d say very sweet things, even made a picture of me once. I have confided in him, trusted him with personal information etc.
Me and my grandmother would pray for him to have good games, we even Skyped once while my mother was room singing for us and in general we were getting along. He would text or Skype right after games to tell me how he was feeling. It was really sweet. If he’d go out to a club, I’d would try to make sure he was safe returning home, had a designated driver and etc. I work a lot and long hours so trying to stay up was not an easy feat and although he didn’t ask, I cared enough to do it. Just because a person has money does not always mean they have a driver when going out. He would ask me constantly to see him, but I declined mostly because of work, but also because I was leery because “groupie tales,” I read.
Ironically me and Javale laughed at a couple of groupie stories on BSO. One about a girl going to Vegas and getting arrested and another about a girl just who was flown out and just got Salisbury Steake
The fact that I know the people from the Vegas AND the Salisbury steak story is hilarious to me in itself. What's even more hilarious is that these two stories would have been cautionary tales for YOU had you listened, but I digress.. Let' s continue..
Javale said we would never be like that, but that was obviously a lie. After 5 months I finally agreed to meet him on August 8th. I waited that long to be sure that he wasn’t just looking for a jumpoff. I also thought this was a big deal for him because according to Javale he doesn’t fly“bitches,” out in the offseason.
My flight was delayed, so I got there late, I was hoping to have some time to chill, but as soon as we got inside the room he wanted to sex. Eventually, we did have sex and I sort of understood since he had waited 5 months to see me, but he immediately started acting odd. He decided to sleep on the couch instead of the bed with me. He also said he had practice early in the morning and when I awoke he was already gone. He came back midday, once again said he was tired and was going to take a nap. That was fine I went to take a walk, but to my surprise while I was walking around I see him outside walking as well.
When I got back to the room he had bought Chipotle for himself and none for me. Petty as it may seem, it’s the little things that count. Once again I thought his behavior was cold, but I was really trying hard to make this work, even though he was acting like he didn’t really want anything to do with me. He claimed he had to go to practice again and that he would be back later. Again, I was left in the room with nothing to do but wait on him.
When he came back he wanted to have sex again and I agreed, I assumed after that since he hadn’t taken me out all day we would go to the movies or do something besides just having sex. Again I was wrong. He said he was “tired” again and didn’t want to go out, instead he went to get a haircut, by then I was starting to see the writing on the wall and left the room. I was invited to a party, but I wanted to go out with Javale so I went back upstairs to try one more time. He noticed my outfit, but still did not want to go out because, “It was too hot.”
At this point I was getting more annoyed and he still refused to go anywhere outside with me. I asked him,” Why didn’t you just get a prostitute?” I told him that wasn’t why I came and we shouldn’t communicate anymore because I am not a jump off. He obviously didn’t want to deal with me anymore at that point, told me he was getting me my own room and that most athletes would just kick me out. He called downstairs and got me a room that would ready in 15 minutes. I even had to demand that he see me to my room. At this point I acknowledged I could have expressed my disappointment with him in a less argumentative way, I felt bad about the fight so I apologized to him and had sex with him again- which was stupid. In retrospect that probably did make me look like I was ok with just having sex and being treated a certain way. I admit to that.
And the story goes on and on.. you can read it at BSO. But like I said before, what I found odd about the story is that she made it a point to mention two stories that she "laughed at" about other girls who've had Baller Encounters go wrong. Just like many of you guys are laughing at her right now. Did we miss the lesson in those other stories? Does it suck now to become the very story you laughed at all because you didn't prepare yourself and swore it would never be you? It's a dangerous world out here and you'd be lucky to be the Salisbury Steak Groupie over the Vegas Groupie. Be thankful all you left with was a bruised ego and not a rap sheet.
I remain neutral in situations like these because it's unfortunate. I post the good and the bad because I want people to learn from them. This girl obviously wants women to learn from her mistake as well so that's why she contacted me to clarify. I got the chance to ask her a few of the questions I knew you guys would want to know. Simple things like "What Made You Feel Special?" and "Why Did You Still Have Sex With Him After Realizing He Was Being Standoffish?". The response is below.
"I have been a member of your site for awhile, always standing up for Javale. We had a friendship for 5 months and he really was special to me. He treated me less than sub par when we met and yes he saw me on Skype before we met. It wasn't about looks, he really never cared about me and only wanted me for sex. Not looking for money, just don't want another woman to think being going through what I went through."
On What Made Her Feel Special & Why She STILL Had Sex After He Was Standoffish
I think to keep any man's attention for 5 mos is hard to do, so the fact that he was still interested keep me holding on to hope.
Javale is different- in the context of attitude, he does weird things, has he has little quirks to him. I do as well. Something we both liked to do was look at silly Youtube videos. As fickle as it sounds it was these simple things that made me see him in a different light. He would ask about my granny. Made a picture of me once (may seem pretty) but no baller I ever talked or texted has done that. I thought I was on a good path with him because little things he adhere to. Like always apologizing or correcting his self if he referred to women as b******, he'd try harder to make convo because he is man of very few words. It seemed like he was trying. We literally texted every other day at least for the entire duration of our "friendship."
On whether the sex was good
"Yes the sex was good. Painful at times but good. The bed was a mess with chocolate the first time we were intimate nonetheless all it took for it to be corrected was to pull the covers back. I was still trying to rationalize his actions because to me Javale was a friend. When he got Chipotle I was taking a nap but nonetheless he could have gotten me something still. I still was trying to rationalize his actions. I was trying to make excuses for him."
On if she ever considered HIM coming to see HER instead
"No, never entered my mind. I work more than he does. I'm an introvert like him, not many friends, family doesn't reside in the state I do- not enough to here to have preferred him come out this way."
Is This Your First Encounter With A Baller?
"I know many ballers. I have been intimate with a man who USE to play football (he was already done by the time we started dating) a while ago but other than that. Never."
What Do You Hope To Teach? What Did You Learn?
"Just to weigh the pros and cons about being involved with an athlete. If he's making you feel as though he cares, make him show you with actions instead of words."
My advice -- you're a beautiful girl but let this be a lesson. Five months isn't long enough to think you have a man figured out and just because he's devoted five months to you isn't saying that you are the only one. A man can have five months worth of Skype sessions with you while having a year long "relationship" with the next chick, it happens. Five months isn't long enough to make any assumptions. When it comes to most Ballers, you are merely an option. Also, always keep in mind a man's intentions when he flies you out. You've read these "Groupie Tales" before and although they were comical at the time, you find yourself becoming another one of them. Should have taken heed and learned from these other girl's experiences so you would have known what to expect.
I think deep down you knew he wanted sex and that's why you gave it to him. The problem is you expected him to change after giving him the sex, and he didn't. He was standoffish when you got there and he was standoffish after you gave up the panties. Yet you gave him sex not once but twice after the fact. When you meet someone and they show you who they are, believe them. No need in trying to justify their actions, just accept that it is who they are. Fact is, Javale showed you exactly who he was within the first five minutes. You met him, he wanted to have sex, he left. Then he did it to you two more times in case you didn't get it the first time.
The lesson learned here is to not assume that you are any different than any other girl or that your Baller is any different than any other Baller. Test the waters first by having him go out of HIS way for YOU. It's nothing for a Baller to buy you a Coach ticket to come see him, that's mere gas money. Time however, is something that is priceless. If he can go out of his way to give you TIME then you may be on to something. Another lesson, never give up the panties thinking that's going to change any situation. If he was a d*** before, no amount of vagina is going to make him less of a d***.