For Women Who Want The Ballerific Life!
When is it ever okay to check a man's phone? Do you check phones? Let's put it all on the table and spill it!
I'm going to be absolutely 100 with my BA fam, I am nosey. I am trusting, but I am nosey. I am trusting, but I am also analytical. These are my blessings and my faults. I will let you live your life and have all the space you need until you do something that makes my women's intuition say "something ain't right". I read body language very well and sometimes I may overanalyze but usually I am right. So now that I have that out of the way, if a man's phone rings and the first thing he does is hesitate, then look at me, then back at his phone..that's a red flag. That makes me feel like you are hiding something and there is a reason you don't want to answer the phone in front of me. With that said, my curiosity will soon kick in and now every time your phone rings, I'll politely peer over and see if I can make out who's name shows up on the screen. It may stop there, it may not.
Yes, I'm a firm believer in 'if you look, you will find' but I also believe if I'm looking, there's a reason. It usually takes a lot for me to be courageous enough to pick up a man's phone and thumb through it however. If I've gotten to that point, it's highly possible the trust was out the window to begin with. I just hate the feeling that I get when looking through a phone. My heart beats fast, I get anxious, I get upset. Who wants to feel like that? If I ever get to that point it's because I felt the man was hiding something from me. And it has to be a big something before I step out of character. I'm not proud to say that I've stuck around, even after going through a man's phone, but I'll admit it. I went through his text messages, his pictures, his phone log, every possible thing there was on his phone. Guess what I found? What I was looking for, at least 90% of the time. The other 10%? I took it as an L and decided to look again tomorrow. If I looked 2 consecutive times and found nothing, I stopped looking all together (That is unless I suspected he was purging evidence). I've done it all! I've called the chick, made him call the chick with me in the room, set the chick up to come to my house then beat her ass....then beat his ass. ALL OF IT!
Pretty much what I'm saying is that I'm guilty of going through a man's phone and I hate it. I hate the feeling while I'm sifting through his text messages and I hate what I find. Is it right I did what I did? No. Is it right he did what HE did? Absolutely not. Curiosity is going to happen and my insecurity isn't totally my fault. I don't encourage looking through a man's cell phone but if a man doesn't want a woman to look, he'll make sure there's nothing to hide/find. So what do you guys say? Have you looked through phones? Do you condone it?