Your Baller Told You To Get Weave ...He doesn’t like your "nappy" hair

 

What do you do when your Baller isn't with Team Natural Hair? For some odd reason there aren't many Ballers who date natural haired beauties. The Ballers of our time tend to look for the women with the European or Latin look, but when it comes to the sistas, she's gotta rock the straight hair or he's not with it....why?

 

What would be a few reasons that a Baller chooses the girl with the weave?

 

- He's looking for his trophy wife Barbie - Men can be very superficial at times. They say you can't trust a big butt and a smile, but I think they will sacrifice trust for a nice big butt. Men want someone they can show off to everyone else. They worry about the opinions of their friends entirely too much. If you don't look like a vixen from his favorite video, chances are you're not who he's choosing.

 

- He's got a complex - ...and whatever that complex is, it doesn't involve your curls, locks or kinky twists. Some men are just into the "European" look and have been brainwashed by societies idea of beauty, you can't change em. How do you find out if your Baller is one of those types? Tell him you want to Amber Rose your hair and watch out for the fit that he throws. If his anger is at an 8 on a scale from 1 to 10, he's definitely got a complex.

 

- Natural women are uppity - Or maybe that's the impression he gets. I've come across quite a few women that have chosen the natural route that have this feeling of entitlement. For example, have you ever met a woman with natural hair who felt the need to tell you that YOU were wrong for having a perm? She called you a conformist for straigtening your hair, and acted as if she was high and mighty? Now imagine having to live with her. What man would want to deal with that?

 

- Self Hate could be a motive - We can't ignore it like it doesn't exist, some men just don't like anything that reminds them of their african roots. They date girls with the palest skin, the silkiest hair and more ethnicities than you can fit on a scantron. I can't feel sorry for those men or even be mad at them. Yes, their preference is a little "skewed", and it may be quite dumb, but it's them who miss out on beautiful black women. Why dwell on what they're losing?

 

What are some other reasons you can think of for why Ballers choose processed hair over natural? Are you a girl with natural hair or relaxed? Why or why not?

 

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Comment by Baller Alert on January 26, 2011 at 10:19am
Times have changed..I remember guys telling me "you got your real hair" now I hear dudes saying how they like weaves. Amazing and gay at the same time. lol
Comment by University of Smitty on January 26, 2011 at 10:23am
I agree.  Sounds gay to me too
Comment by MS. UCAN NEVA GET ENUFF!! on January 26, 2011 at 10:34am
Baller...I dont know..but regular guys always tell me they love my hair when Im wearing it or saying dont put any weave in it(im relaxed) or asking is it my real hair *shrugs* I thnk ballers want weave because they think long hair equals bad bish. I have relaxed hair and thats just what I have. Call me brainwashed but I like my hair. Ive went a while without a relaxer and its too much work for me to deal with, plus i like it straight and would hate to straighten it all the time, although i do love the way my hair waves when i have a lot of new growth.
Comment by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on January 26, 2011 at 10:54am
LOL, no man has EVER told me to get a weave. I have had a few tell me to take my weave out though because they all say I have too much hair to be wearing weave. I get attention both ways, with the weave I look like a glamazon, with my natural wild curly kinky hair I stand out from every chick wearing weave, but I think I look just like a little kid, the weave makes me look more like my age. Every man and baller are different, they all like different things.
Comment by RayRay&Pookie'sWIFEY on January 26, 2011 at 10:56am
I just took my weave out last night, and I feel so naked without it, lol, refreshed, but naked.
Comment by LostInTheDMV on January 26, 2011 at 11:04am

good points.  currently wears my natural. I do notice that I attract different guys now  (more corporate/academic guys and mostly non-black) then when I had long relaxed hair. always thought that was interesting. and I do know some women with natural hair that seem to have something against relaxed hair and weave. I believe, hell its your preference and your hair, wear it the way you wanna.

Comment by Honeycoated on January 26, 2011 at 11:06am
Men, in general, like long hair. Just imagine if you "amber Rose"'d your hair (everybody cant pull that off by the way) just imagine you are a dude and your girl is giving you head and you look down and see a bald fade! You'd think it was a dude giving you head for a second.
Comment by Golden Child on January 26, 2011 at 12:23pm
Personally I have semi short hair and it's shaved on one side. I absoultely love it! When I get it style I get a million and one compliments from men as well as women. It takes a real woman with real confidence to not wear a weave and to wear it short and not look like everyone else.
Comment by isntshelovely25 on January 26, 2011 at 12:36pm
some of them like women that look like their moms. keyword: some.
Comment by C.J. on January 26, 2011 at 1:24pm

I was told that. It hurt my feelings. He met me with weave and during my transition I rocked my real hair (I wore weave as a protective style). One day he looked at me and said "How much does your weave cost?" I said this is my hair boo...he said "I know I liked the weave better".

Its a hurt feeling when you aren't accepted in your fool naked self. Being relaxer free was a choice I made for the health of my hair. He is cool with it now but I can tell he gets more excited about my weaves than I do.

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